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When Love Dies -- How to Save a Hopeless Marriage
by Judy Bodmer
1999 (Word Publishing: Nashville, TN) [194 pages]
[Answer 11 of 15 questions correctly to receive 8 hours of Continuing Education credit].


Chapter 1: When Love Dies (p. 1-5)
1. 83% of marriages that end in divorce end because of
a. lack of commitment and immaturity.
b. financial pressures.
c. domestic violence.
d. adultery.
Chapter 2: It’s for the Best (p. 6-17)

2. Which is NOT a consequence of divorce?
a. For the first 5 to 6 years afterwards, the ex-spouses will be consumed by moderate to severe anger.
b. Children in a stepfamily are more than forty times more likely to suffer sexual or physical abuse.
c. A divorced woman’s standard of living, on average, decreases by 73%.
d. A divorced man’s standard of living, on average, decreases by 10 to 15%
Chapter 3: You Don’t Know How Bad Things Are (p. 18-25)

3. The author said she sinned against her husband by
a. thinking of other men.
b. developing a “hard heart” toward him.
c. arguing in front of their children.
d. overspending the family income.
Chapter 4: You Don’t Know My Husband (p. 26-33)

4. Which is NOT true about a husband?
a. He has a deep desire to make a difference in the world.
b. He doesn’t think anyone cares about him.
c. He shows his feelings with actions rather than words.
d. He works hard outside the home but is basically lazy inside the home.
Chapter 5: I Can’t Forgive or Forget (p. 34-48)

5. Forgiveness is
a. forgetting the offense.
b. easier to do with little offenses.
c. not bringing up the offenses again.
d. something you can’t do until the hurt first goes away.
Chapter 6: I Can’t Change Who I Am (p. 49-58)

6. One thing the author did to change her unrealistic view of marriage and love:
a. She stopped watching soap operas and reading romance novels.
b. She started watching “Oprah.”
c. She sold her Walt Disney move collection.
d. She studied chapter 5 of the book of Ephesians in the Bible.
Chapter 7: I Can’t Change the Way I Feel (p. 59-71)

7. A woman who doesn’t like the way she looks should
a. go on a diet.
b. stop focusing on her “defects.”
c. join an aerobics class.
d. get a makeover.
Chapter 8: I Had So Many Dreams (p. 72-86)

8. At the end of this chapter, the author tells the readers to
a. develop the habit of having dinners every night with your family.
b. plan occasional weekends away for just the husband and wife.
c. make a list of goals you would like to accomplish within the next ten years.
d. ask God to remove the unrealistic expectations you brought into your marriage.
Chapter 9: I Don’t Love Him (p. 87-103)

9. The hardest decision the author ever made was
a. to become a pastor’s wife.
b. to co-file bankruptcy with her husband.
c. to trust her husband’s decision to not have a third child.
d. to give up her feelings of being “in love” with her husband.
Chapter 10: We Can’t Talk (p. 104-116)

10. Which of the following most effectively communicates the wife’s expectations for her husband?
a. “I don’t know what to fix for dinner.”
b. “You never help me with household chores.”
c. “Would you empty the dishwasher please?”
d. “Why are you always late when coming home from work?”
Chapter 11: I Feel So Angry (p. 117-130)

11. One of the author’s favorite things to do was to stop for donuts after church on Sunday. She finally decided that
a. she would wait until they got home and then tell her husband how disappointed she was if he did not stop.
b. she would simply remind her husband to stop. He probably had his mind on other things, but he didn’t love her any less if he forgot to stop.
c. if her husband didn’t stop, it meant that he didn’t care about her.
d. she would wait for her husband to remember how important this was to her.
Chapter 12: I Married the Wrong Man (p. 131-141)

12. A married woman can avoid adultery by
a. never confiding in male friends.
b. never flirting.
c. avoid any men she is sexually attracted to.
d. all of the above.
Chapter 13: I Don’t Want Him to Touch Me (p. 142-153)

13. “You have God’s permission to enjoy sex within your marriage” is advice given by
a. Ed and Gaye Wheat in Intended for Pleasure.
b. Clifford and Joyce Penner in The Gift of Sex.
c. H. Norman Wright in In Touch with Each Other.
d. Dr. Deborah Newman in Then God Created Woman.
Chapter 14: I Don’t Feel Loved (p. 154-170)

14. The more the author allowed God to fill her heart, the more she
a. focused on helping others.
b. achieved success in her job.
c. get her needs fulfilled by her husband.
d. grew in popularity.
Chapter 15: I Just Want to Be Happy (p. 171-187)

15. This chapter is about the author
a. teaching her husband how to be more romantic.
b. encouraging readers to be more accepting of divorce.
c. taking responsibility for her own happiness.
d. getting her husband to be more of a spiritual leader.