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Understanding and Facilitating Forgiveness (Strategic Pastoral Counseling Resources)
by David G. Benner, Ph.D. and Robert W. Harvey
© 1996.
(Baker Books: Grand Rapids, MI). All rights reserved.

[Answer 11 of 15 questions correctly to receive
7 hours of Continuing Education credit.]


Chapter 1: The Importance of Forgiveness (p 25-39)
1. Forgiveness results in
a. a stronger immune system.
b. a smaller chance of experiencing cancer or heart disease.
c. less burnout.
d. all of the above.

2. Joseph forgave his brothers because
a. what they did to him was not all that terrible.
b. they agreed to serve him in exchange for his forgiveness.
c. he did not view himself as morally superior to them.
d. he was obligated to forgive them because of his fatherís wishes.

Chapter 2: The Possibility of Forgiveness (p 41-56)
3. I can forgive another when
a. the person acknowledges wrongdoing.
b. the person is punished for wrongdoing.
c. the person attempts to restore the wrongdoing.
d. I realize that God is satisfied with Christís payment for that wrongdoing.

4. Forgiveness is
a. forgetting.
b. remembering without malice.
c. excusing.
d. unconditional trust.

5. To promote forgiveness, victims should
a. remember their own specific sins against others.
b. extend forgiveness only if the person is sorry.
c. expect to feel better inside immediately after forgiving another.
d. realize that forgiveness is a one-time act.

6. To ďforgive and forgetĒ means to
a. let time heal the wound.
b. not remember the offense anymore.
c. not use the offense as reason to punish the offender.
d. ignore your hurt feelings and become productive.

Chapter 3: The Necessity of Forgiveness (p 57-69)
7. Dr. Lewis Smedeís reconciliation with an estranged friend was
a. carte blanche.
b. like a torrential downpour.
c. in bits and pieces.
d. with great triumph.

Chapter 4: The Difficulty of Forgiveness (p 71-84)
8. King Davidís forgiveness of Nabal was demonstrated by
a. not taking vengeance on him.
b. reconciling with him.
c. restoring trust in him.
d. accepting Nabalís confession.

Chapter 5: The Role of Forgiveness in Pastoral Care (p 87-100)
9. Paulís core problem was his
a. reluctance to become a church leader.
b. feelings of spiritual disinterest.
c. not liking himself very much.
d. disappointment at not having been promoted at work.

10. Sue said that Godís love for her began to make sense only
after she
a. confronted her sadistic and abusive grandmother.
b. completed an in-depth Bible study on the concepts of divine love and grace.
c. realized her behavior was motivated by self-punishment.
d. came to understand and appreciate her pastorís acceptance of her.

Chapter 6: Case Study I (p 101-126)
11. In Karenís first counseling session, the pastor encouraged her to
a. forgive her husband for his infidelity.
b. experience the presence of God.
c. separate from her unfaithful husband.
d. obtain legal advice.

12. At the beginning of session two, Karen felt
a. defeated.
b. depressed.
c. numb.
d. powerfully angry.

13. A turning point in Karenís ability to forgive her husband was
a. a realization that God has also forgiven her for hurting other people.
b. her husbandís remorse for his infidelity.
c. her husbandís desire to reconcile their marriage.
d. receiving a letter from her husband.

Chapter 7: Case Study II (p 127-137)
14. The pastor helped Bill to understand that forgiving his former boss
a. begins with meeting with him and confessing Billís bitterness.
b. is unnecessary as his former boss had unfairly treated Bill.
c. meant giving up Billís right to remain angry at him.
d. would probably be necessary only one time in order for Billís anger to be resolved.

Chapter 8: Case Study III (p 139-158)
15. At the end of the second session with Jean, the pastor asked her
to think about
a. why she had spread the rumor about her friendís abortion.
b. the suggestion that perhaps the source of her anger was jealousy toward others.
c. what effect her faith in God was having on her self-loathing.
d. what made her so special that God couldnít forgive her.