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The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick © 2008.
(B&H Publishing Group: Nashville, TN) All rights reserved. [213 pages]
[Answer 14 of 20 questions correctly to receive
8 hours of Continuing Education credit]


Day 1 & 2
1. Which is NOT necessarily true about kindness?
a. It makes you a more enjoyable person to be around.
b. It reduces arguments by making you more agreeable, compromising, and accommodating.
c. It motivates you to be the first one to greet your spouse at the end of the work day.
d. If you are kind to your spouse, your spouse will become better at meeting your needs.

Day 3 & 4
2. Based on the different ways men and women communicate, what advice do the authors give to husbands and wives?
a. A husband should listen for his wife’s unspoken messages; his wife shall learn to say what she really means.
b. A husband and wife should have a 15-20 minute talk every evening about their day.
c. A husband should say more; his wife should say less.
d. A husband should become better at multi-tasking; his wife should focus on one task at a time.

Day 5 & 6
3. To reduce irritability, the authors recommend
a. taking medication or nutritional supplements.
b. learning a new hobby.
c. adding breathing room or margin to your weekly schedule.
d. watching less TV at night and reading good books.

Day 7 & 8
4. What is the correct way we should think about our spouses?
a. To be realistic, we should spend equal amounts of time thinking about our spouse’s strengths and weaknesses.
b. We should think about our spouse’s negative qualities when our spouse is behaving badly.
c. We must reign in negative thoughts and focus on the positive attributes of our spouses.
d. We must never think about our spouse’s weaknesses.

Day 9 & 10
5. Which is NOT true?
a. I should greet my spouse every day with warmth and enthusiasm.
b. Greeting my spouse will increase his or her personal sense of self worth.
c. Greeting one another is not a biblical concept; it’s just a good idea.
d. If I love my spouse unconditionally, then I will greet him or her even when I don’t feel like it.

Day 11 & 12
6. One of the most effective ways to end a marital argument is to
a. willingly agree to do what your spouse wants.
b. keep talking until you reach a compromise.
c. walk away.
d. agree to disagree.

Day 13 & 14
7. Which is NOT a suggested “we” boundary?
a. Don’t mention divorce.
b. Don’t tell your spouse you are angry.
c. Don’t bring up the past.
d. Take a “time out” if conflict escalates to a damaging level.

Day 15 & 16
8. What does it mean to honor your spouse?
a. When talking to each other, you give your spouse your full attention.
b. When reaching family decisions, you consider your spouse’s opinion just as important as your own.
c. Instead of trying to change your spouse, you pray for him or her.
d. all of the above.

Day 17 & 18
9. Which principle is NOT proposed by the author?
a. You can create emotional safety in your marriage by allowing your spouse to make mistakes.
b. The longer a couple is married, the more they each become like the other person.
c. Try to understand why your spouse acts differently than you do and accept him or her for it.
d. There is a depth of beauty and meaning inside your wife or husband that will amaze you as you discover of it.

Day 19 & 20
10. Which is TRUE about unconditional love?
a. The power to unconditionally love your spouse only comes from Christ.
b. Certain people who have a kind personality can love their spouse unconditionally.
c. God’s unconditional love can be acquired by living a consistent moral life.
d. Most married Christians love their spouses unconditionally.

Day 21 & 22
11. Considering the prophet Hosea’s response to his unfaithful wife, what is God’s desire for a marriage devastated by adultery?
a. The marriage has incurred too much damage and should be dissolved.
b. The wounded spouse should assume the moral high ground and require retribution.
c. The wounded spouse should courageously choose to love the adulterous spouse like an “enemy”, expecting nothing in return.
d. The wounded spouse, realistically, must reduce interactions with the adulterous spouse to a minimum.

Day 23 & 24
12. Which is NOT true about lust?
a. We can decrease sources of lust in our homes.
b. Lust makes you dissatisfied with your spouse.
c. Lust is primarily a man’s problem.
d. Being grateful for what God has given you can help to combat lust.

Day 25 & 26
13. How do you know when you have really forgiven someone?
a. When the other person apologizes for what they have done.
b. When you no longer think about punishing them for what they have done to you.
c. When you realized that what they did to you wasn’t so bad after all.
d. When you no longer remember what they did to you.

Day 27 & 28
14. These two chapters are about
a. living to encourage your spouse instead of expecting your spouse to meet your needs.
b. holding your spouse accountable for his or her actions.
c. using diplomacy to help your spouse make necessary changes.
d. how to disengage from your spouse when he or she is having a bad day.

Day 29 & 30
15. The best motivation for marital love is
a. the good behavior of your spouse.
b. a strong sense of duty.
c. a desire to please God.
d. your spouse’s love for you.

Day 31 & 32
16. I Corinthians 7:3 says, “The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.” What is meant by the “duty” that the husband and wife have toward the other?
a. to pray for one another.
b. to treat each other with respect and kindness.
c. to help bear the other’s burdens.
d. to fulfill one another’s sexual needs.

Day 33 & 34
17. The differences between a husband and wife should be viewed as
a. something to change.
b. a source of friction and frustration.
c. an indication that one is right and the other is wrong.
d. complementary.

Day 35 & 36
18. These chapters advise couples to
a. find a good mentor and read the Bible daily.
b. do things together and pray for one another.
c. budget their money and get out of debt.
d. talk every day and develop empathy skills.

Day 37 & 38
19. Which statement is NOT made concerning praying with your spouse?
a. Pray together daily.
b. The best time to pray together is when you and your spouse are getting along.
c. Pray together when you can’t resolve an argument.
d. Even though beginning a habit of praying together can initially feel awkward and uncomfortable, God wants us to pray together.

Day 39 & 40
20. The author keeps repeating I Corinthians 13:8 “Love never fails.” What does he mean by this powerful phrase?
a. If you love your spouse, you spouse will love you.
b. A loving marriage will not end in divorce.
c. It’s very unrealistic to keep loving your spouse if he or she is not loving you in return.
d. With God’s help, you can continue loving your spouse even if your spouse stops loving you.