Keeping the Love Tank Full (p. 19-24)
1. “Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of
an empty ‘love tank’.” Who said this?
a. Ross Campbell
b. Judson Swihart
c. M. Scott Peck
d. Gary Chapman
Chapter 3: Falling in Love (p. 27-37)
2. Long-range studies conducted by psychologist Dr. Dorothy Tennov
conclude that the average life span of a non-secretive romantic
a. 3 months
b. 6 months
c. 1 year
d. 2 years
3. Real love, not being “in love”, requires
a. an act of the will.
b. discipline and conscious effort.
c. personal growth.
d. all of the above.
Chapter 4: Love Language #1 -- Words of Affirmation (p. 39-53)
4. Dr. Chapman told a wife to stop asking her husband to paint the bedroom
a. it was apparent that her husband was never going to do it and Dr. Chapman wanted to spare her any more frustration.
b. Dr. Chapman advised her to paint the bedroom instead.
c. Dr. Chapman wanted her to express gratitude for the many things her
husband did do as a possible motivator for him to do something for
d. Dr. Chapman told her it wasn’t worth arguing about; there were more
important marital concerns to address.
Chapter 5: Love Language #2 -- Quality Time (p. 55-71)
5. According to the author, togetherness is
a. a husband and wife looking around at other families while eating dinner
in a restaurant.
b. a husband who turns away from the computer and toward his wife to
listen to her talk about her day.
c. a husband talking to his wife while he is watching sports on
d. a husband and wife sitting in the same room reading books.
6. Research indicates that the average individual listens for ____
interrupting the speaker.
a. 8 seconds
b. 17 seconds
c. 23 seconds
d. 27 seconds
Chapter 6: Love Language #3 -- Receiving Gifts (p. 73-85)
7. If a wife’s primary love language is receiving gifts, then _____ is
the most powerful gift her husband can give her.
a. a safe and comfortable home
b. lifelong financial security
d. physical presence at the time of crisis
Chapter 7: Love Language #4 -- Acts of Service (p. 87-100)
8. To the author, what was unique about Mark and Mary?
a. They both had the same love language.
b. How little they had in common.
c. How much they disagreed with one another.
d. How easy it was to help them.
9. This chapter teaches…
a. After we get married, we revert to being the people we were before we
“fell in love.”
b. It is better to request love than to demand it.
c. My spouse’s criticisms of me also tell me what her love language is.
d. all of the above.
Chapter 8: Love Language #5 -- Physical Touch (p. 108-116)
10. Pete once waited 6 weeks for his wife to touch him because
a. she no longer found him to be physically attractive.
b. she did not grow up in a “touching family.”
c. he wanted her to initiate his love language for a change (physical
d. his counselor advised him to wait.
Chapter 9: Discovering Your Primary Love Language (p. 119-127)
11. A wife having difficulty determining her primary love language
a. think about the greatest way her husband hurts her.
b. ask herself “What have I requested most often from my husband?”
c. examine how she regularly expresses her love to her husband.
d. all of the above.
Chapter 10: Love Is a Choice (p. 129-136)
12. One month after Brent told Dr. Chapman that he didn’t love his wife
anymore, he decided to give his marriage a second chance because
a. he took seriously Dr. Chapman’s argument that 60% of second marriages
end in divorce.
b. he came to his senses about how divorce would traumatize his children.
c. Brent’s adulterous lover fell out of love with him.
d. he had a profound spiritual experience.
Chapter 11: Love Makes the Difference (p. 139-145)
13. Norm and Jean, who had been married for 35 years, came to see
Chapman because Norm was not satisfying Jean’s love language
and Jean was not satisfying Norm’s love language of _____.
a. quality time, acts of service
b. quality time, physical touch
c. acts of service, quality time
d. physical touch, quality time
Chapter 12: Loving the Unlovely (p. 147-159)
14. Ann described to Dr. Chapman her horrible marriage, one in
was repeatedly cursed, mistreated, and hated by her husband. Dr. Chapman
then asked Ann for a commitment to speak her husband’s
love language for
6 months to see how he would respond to her.
Dr. Chapman based this advice
a. the certainty that Ann’s husband would change for the better.
b. Jesus’ command to love our enemies and those who hate us.
c. scientific research he had done concerning hateful marriages.
d. the prerequisite that Ann must restore emotional feelings of love so
her loving actions toward her husband would not be hypocritical.
Chapter 13: Children and Love Languages (p. 161-170)
15. If a father has an older daughter and realizes that he has been speaking the wrong love language to her all these years, what should
a. Explain the deficiencies he inherited from his parents, and ask for her
compassion and understanding.
b. There’s not much he can do. Her basic personality and character have
already been formed, so whatever mistakes he has made he just has to live
c. Take long walks with her (quality time), telling her all the fond
memories he has of her (words of affirmation).
d. Tell her he has been communicating to her in the wrong love language
and make a commitment to speak her love language instead.