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The Five Love Languages -- How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
by Gary D. Chapman, Ph.D.
© 1995.
(Northfield Publishing: Chicago, IL) All rights reserved. [203 pages]
[Answer 11 of 15 questions correctly to receive
7 hours of Continuing Education credit]


Chapter 2: Keeping the Love Tank Full (p. 19-24)
1. “Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty ‘love tank’.” Who said this?
a. Ross Campbell
b. Judson Swihart
c. M. Scott Peck
d. Gary Chapman

Chapter 3: Falling in Love (p. 27-37)

2. Long-range studies conducted by psychologist Dr. Dorothy Tennov conclude that the average life span of a non-secretive romantic obsession is
a. 3 months
b. 6 months
c. 1 year
d. 2 years

3. Real love, not being “in love”, requires
a. an act of the will.
b. discipline and conscious effort.
c. personal growth.
d. all of the above.

Chapter 4: Love Language #1 -- Words of Affirmation (p. 39-53)

4. Dr. Chapman told a wife to stop asking her husband to paint the bedroom because
a. it was apparent that her husband was never going to do it and Dr. Chapman wanted to spare her any more frustration.
b. Dr. Chapman advised her to paint the bedroom instead.
c. Dr. Chapman wanted her to express gratitude for the many things her husband did do as a possible motivator for him to do something for her.
d. Dr. Chapman told her it wasn’t worth arguing about; there were more important marital concerns to address.

Chapter 5: Love Language #2 -- Quality Time (p. 55-71)

5. According to the author, togetherness is
a. a husband and wife looking around at other families while eating dinner in a restaurant.
b. a husband who turns away from the computer and toward his wife to listen to her talk about her day.
c. a husband talking to his wife while he is watching sports on television.
d. a husband and wife sitting in the same room reading books.

6. Research indicates that the average individual listens for ____ before
interrupting the speaker.

a. 8 seconds
b. 17 seconds
c. 23 seconds
d. 27 seconds

Chapter 6: Love Language #3 -- Receiving Gifts (p. 73-85)

7. If a wife’s primary love language is receiving gifts, then _____ is the most powerful gift her husband can give her.
a. a safe and comfortable home
b. lifelong financial security
c. romance
d. physical presence at the time of crisis

Chapter 7: Love Language #4 -- Acts of Service (p. 87-100)

8. To the author, what was unique about Mark and Mary?
a. They both had the same love language.
b. How little they had in common.
c. How much they disagreed with one another.
d. How easy it was to help them.

9. This chapter teaches…
a. After we get married, we revert to being the people we were before we “fell in love.”
b. It is better to request love than to demand it.
c. My spouse’s criticisms of me also tell me what her love language is.
d. all of the above.

Chapter 8: Love Language #5 -- Physical Touch (p. 108-116)

10. Pete once waited 6 weeks for his wife to touch him because
a. she no longer found him to be physically attractive.
b. she did not grow up in a “touching family.”
c. he wanted her to initiate his love language for a change (physical touch).
d. his counselor advised him to wait.

Chapter 9: Discovering Your Primary Love Language (p. 119-127)

11. A wife having difficulty determining her primary love language should
a. think about the greatest way her husband hurts her.
b. ask herself “What have I requested most often from my husband?”
c. examine how she regularly expresses her love to her husband.
d. all of the above.

Chapter 10: Love Is a Choice (p. 129-136)

12. One month after Brent told Dr. Chapman that he didn’t love his wife anymore, he decided to give his marriage a second chance because
a. he took seriously Dr. Chapman’s argument that 60% of second marriages end in divorce.
b. he came to his senses about how divorce would traumatize his children.
c. Brent’s adulterous lover fell out of love with him.
d. he had a profound spiritual experience.

Chapter 11: Love Makes the Difference (p. 139-145)

13. Norm and Jean, who had been married for 35 years, came to see Dr. Chapman because Norm was not satisfying Jean’s love language of _____ and Jean was not satisfying Norm’s love language of _____.
a. quality time, acts of service
b. quality time, physical touch
c. acts of service, quality time
d. physical touch, quality time

Chapter 12: Loving the Unlovely (p. 147-159)

14. Ann described to Dr. Chapman her horrible marriage, one in which she was repeatedly cursed, mistreated, and hated by her husband. Dr. Chapman then asked Ann for a commitment to speak her husband’s love language for 6 months to see how he would respond to her.
Dr. Chapman based this advice upon

a. the certainty that Ann’s husband would change for the better.
b. Jesus’ command to love our enemies and those who hate us.
c. scientific research he had done concerning hateful marriages.
d. the prerequisite that Ann must restore emotional feelings of love so her loving actions toward her husband would not be hypocritical.

Chapter 13: Children and Love Languages (p. 161-170)

15. If a father has an older daughter and realizes that he has been speaking the wrong love language to her all these years, what should he do?
a. Explain the deficiencies he inherited from his parents, and ask for her compassion and understanding.
b. There’s not much he can do. Her basic personality and character have already been formed, so whatever mistakes he has made he just has to live with.
c. Take long walks with her (quality time), telling her all the fond memories he has of her (words of affirmation).
d. Tell her he has been communicating to her in the wrong love language and make a commitment to speak her love language instead.