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Sacred Marriage -- What if God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More than to Make Us Happy by Gary Thomas © 2000.
(Zondervan: Grand Rapids, MI) All rights reserved. [298 pages]
[Answer 14 of 20 questions correctly to receive
13 hours of Continuing Education credit]


Chapter One: The Greatest Challenge in the World -- A Call to Holiness More Than Happiness (p. 11-26)
1. Romantic love, the concept that marriage should involve passion and fulfillment and excitement, does not provide a firm foundation for any marriage. Who agrees with this statement?
a. Francis de Sales
b. Katherine Anne Porter
c. C. S. Lewis
d. all of the above

Chapter Two: Finding God in Marriage -- Marital Analogies Teach Us Truths About God (p. 27-37)

2. The primary reason why a husband and wife should never divorce is because
a. it produces a more stable society.
b. their children grow up with more confidence.
c. married people are happier than single people.
d. it pleases God for them to stay married.

Chapter Three: Learning to Love -- How Marriage Teaches Us to Love (p, 39-51)

3. Marital love
a. is natural and spontaneous.
b. results in self-fulfillment.
c. must be learned and re-learned.
d. is easier than loving God.

Chapter Four: Holy Honor -- Marriage Teaches Us to Respect Others (p. 53-71)

4. The author says that few things lift his spirits more than when his family
a. compliments him in public.
b. tells him what a good speaker he is.
c. thanks him for working so hard to provide for them.
d. thanks him for doing routine household chores.

Chapter Five: The Soul’s Embrace -- Good Marriage Fosters Good Prayer (p. 73-87)

5. In the Bible, I Peter 3:7 teaches that if husbands don’t treat wives with respect, then
a. their prayers will be hindered.
b. they have forfeited their leadership.
c. they will not prosper.
d. they will live a shorter life span.

6. When Bill McCartney, a successful football coach and founder of the Promise Keepers’ men’s ministry, discovered that his “hard-charging” pace was distracting him from his family,
a. he resigned from Promise Keepers.
b. he retired from coaching football.
c. he sought marriage counseling.
d. he asked his wife to persevere during his busy schedule.

7. The author compares prayer to
a. sharing a meal at a lavish banquet.
b. a husband lovingly caressing his wife.
c. a sweet aroma.
d. a son asking his father for a loaf of bread.

Chapter Six: The Cleansing of Marriage -- How Marriage Exposes Our Sin (p. 89-102)

8. The author concludes that singleness in NOT a greater pathway to holiness; rather, all Christians, whether single or married, should view their particular situation as a pathway for growth. One way marriage produces growth is by exposing our character flaws, selfishness, and anti-Christian attitudes. This requires humility. Who described humility as a “certain honesty, and childlike willingness to acknowledge our faults, to recover from them, and to submit to the advice of experienced people”?
a. Francois Fenelon
b. Howard Hendricks
c. Blaise Pascal
d. William Law

9. When Greg, who had been married for 8 years, told the author that his wife, Sharon, was boring, didn’t understand him, and that they had grown apart, the author
a. empathized with him and told him that every couple goes through times like this.
b. told him that he and his wife should take a trip together and get reacquainted.
c. rephrased Greg’s words to show that he valued writing computer code with a woman at work more than he valued his own children.
d. suggested that his wife see a counselor in order to become a better wife.

Chapter Seven: Sacred History -- Building the Spiritual Discipline of Perseverance (p. 103-125)
10. Researchers William J. Lederer and Don D. Jackson observed that they “have never observed a generally constant collaborative union between spouses during the period when they are raising children.” The author quoted these researchers in order to make which point?

a. Parenting is not for everyone.
b. Parents need to take a break from their children.
c. There are some stages (seasons) of marriage that simply need to be endured.
d. Parents need to learn better parenting skills.

Chapter Eight: Sacred Struggle -- Embracing Difficulty in Order to Build Character (p. 127-152)

     "For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal
      glory that far outweighs them all.” (II Corinthians 4:17)

11. What suffering did the Lincolns and the Lindberghs have in common?
a. a spouse with an explosive temper.
b. a spouse who went on spending binges.
c. an alcoholic spouse.
d. the loss of a child.

12. Concerning our present suffering, God promises
a. to remove it.
b. to reduce it.
c. to give meaning to it.
d. to explain it.

Chapter Nine: Falling Forward -- Marriage Teaches Us to Forgive (p. 153-177)

13. To truly forgive your spouse, you must
a. forget the damage that has been done to you.
b. accept your spouse’s weaknesses over and over again throughout your entire marriage.
c. wait until your spouse expresses sorrow for what has been done.
d. pull away for a short time to restore your feelings.

Chapter Ten: Make Me a Servant -- Marriage Can Build in Us a Servant’s Heart (p. 179-197)
14. C. J. Mahaney admits that it is a daily sacrifice for him to
a. “talk details” with his wife in the evening.
b. help their children with their homework.
c. help with household chores like laundry and cleaning up the kitchen.
d. pay monthly bills on time.

15. A husband is truly serving his wife, in the Christian sense, when he cleans up the kitchen
a. so she will be more agreeable to his sexual advances.
b. so she will complain less about his faults.
c. because he doesn’t like the way she cleans it.
d. and demands nothing in return.

Chapter Eleven: Sexual Saints -- Marital Sexuality Can Provide Spiritual Insights and Character Development (p. 199-226)
16. Who taught that during intercourse, God’s glory is mystically between the husband and the wife?
a. Clement of Alexandria
b. Nahmanides in the Holy Letter (15th century)
c. the Council of Nicea
d. Augustine

17. The author makes the argument that our sexual appetites are heavily cultivated by our culture which puts too much importance on physical appearance. He quotes C.S. Lewis who says that our culture has made the role of the eye in sexuality more and more important while the possibility of achieving a certain physical appearance becomes less and less achievable (because of child-bearing, aging, etc). The point of the author’s argument is so a husband
a. will focus only on his wife and not compare her to other women.
b. will love his wife even when her body goes through changes that our society would not define as “attractive”.
c. would learn to love his wife more for her internal qualities than for the shape of her body.
d. all of the above.

Chapter Twelve: Sacred Presence -- How Marriage Can Make Us More Aware of God’s Presence (p. 227-245)

18. In Practicing the Presence of God, Brother Lawrence said that we should establish ourselves in the presence of God by
a. maintaining brief periods of silence throughout the day.
b. daily meditation and reading of the Bible.
c. continually talking to Him.
d. doing good deeds to others.

Chapter Thirteen: Sacred Mission -- Marriage Can Develop Our Spiritual Calling, Mission and Purpose (p. 247-263)

19. When a woman wrote to Frances de Sales about how could she best serve God when she had so much to do, he advised her to
a. simplify her life by eliminating some tasks.
b. do whatever she had to do with patience, exercising gentleness of heart toward everyone.
c. do the spiritual tasks first, then her earthly duties.
d. put God first, then her family, then herself.

20. A spiritually alive marriage will remain a marriage of two individuals in pursuit of
a. greater awareness of their weaknesses.
b. a common vision outside themselves.
c. financial and emotional stability.
d. happiness.