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Life & Loss -- A Guide to Help Grieving Children
by Linda Goldman
Accelerated Development: Taylor & Francis (Philadelphia PA). 203 pages.
[Answer 11 of 15 questions correctly to receive
5 hours of Continuing Education credit].


Introduction (p xv-xvii)
1. Children primarily express their grief through
a. sleep.
b. silence.
c. talk.
d. play.
Chapter 1: Children’s Loss and Grief (p 1-21)

2. If a child’s pet dies, the author encourages parents to
a. remove the pet after the child goes to sleep.
b. immediately replace the pet with another one.
c. have a backyard funeral and burial for the pet.
d. don’t talk about the pet for a couple of weeks.
3. Child abuse should be reported to Children’s Protective Services
a. only when bruises are present.
b. when abuse is suspected to have occurred.
c. only if the reporter is willing to provide his or her name.
d. only when the reporter can actually prove that abuse has occurred.
Chapter 2: Myths of Grief (p 23-34)

4. Children tend to grieve
a. if their parents also grieve.
b. in the same way as their siblings.
c. by behaving destructively.
d. silently.
Chapter 3: Four Psychological Tasks of Grief Work (p 35-53)

5. Which of the following phrases promotes a child’s proper understanding of death?
a. “God took Daddy because he was so good.”
b. “Grandma went on a long trip.”
c. “Susan lost her mother.”
d. “Billy died in a drowning accident.”
6. Establishing ways of remembering the person who died is the psychological task called
a. understanding.
b. grieving.
c. commemorating.
d. going on.
Chapter 4: Techniques for Grief Work (p 55-100)

7. After a boy’s dog dies, he said to his mother, “I hate the world.” A good answer from his mother would be
a. “Don’t get too upset, son.”
b. “We can get you another dog.”
c. “It’s not right to hate the world.”
d. “You really miss your dog, don’t you?”
[Children’s Questions & Techniques for Answering Them]
8. Magical thinking is when children think
a. they caused the death of their loved one.
b. their loved one is coming back.
c. their loved one went to heaven.
d. their loved one still talks to them.
9. In grief work, the most important aspect of a child’s artwork is
a. getting the child to tell what it means.
b. suggesting to the child what the pictures might represent.
c. the child’s freedom of expression without judgment.
d. correcting the child’s views as expressed by their pictures.
Chapter 5: Preparing for a Goodbye Visit (p 101-110)

10. In the article by Judith Rubenstein entitled “Preparing a Child for a Goodbye Visit”, which of the following is TRUE?
a. Most of the family and friends of the couple agreed with their efforts to take the children on a goodbye trip to see their failing Grandpa.
b. The parents told the children ahead of time how terrible their Grandpa would look when they saw him.
c. When she visited her Grandpa, the daughter was afraid to approach him.
d. After their individual trips to see Grandpa, the children had nightmares about him.
Chapter 6: Especially for Educators (p 111-133)

11. When a school shooting is made known by the national media, school teachers should
a. avoid the subject altogether and focus on academics.
b. lead a class discussion about how to make their school safer.
c. blame the violence on video games and popular music.
d. blame the violence on bad parenting.
12. Professional help should be sought for which of the following situations?
a. Child is extremely clingy to adults.
b. Child will not socialize.
c. Child is cruel to animals.
d. All of the above.
Chapter 7: The Community Grief Team (p 135-155)

13. Ten year-old Ellen felt some happiness after her depressed mother shot herself because
a. it relieved Ellen of the burden of constantly trying to cheer up her mother.
b. her mother was abusive to Ellen and her six year-old brother, Dave.
c. the happiness served as a mask for some unacknowledged anger.
d. there was something wrong with Ellen’s pattern of grieving.
14. In Linda Goldman’s book Bart Speaks Out on Suicide, an interactive story for young children about suicide, Bart is
a. a father.
b. a young boy.
c. a cartoon character.
d. a dog.
15. A boy’s mother dies from cancer two weeks before Mother’s Day. His school teacher was planning to have his class make Mother’s Day cards. She should
a. invite the boy to make a symbolic Mother’s Day card for his Mom.
b. remove the boy from the class before the assignment begins.
c. cancel the class project altogether. Don’t have any cards made.
d. None of the above.