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Learning to Trust Again -- A Young Woman's Journey of Healing from Sexual Abuse
by Christa Sands © 1999
(Discovery House Publishers: Grand Rapids, MI) [215 pages]
[Answer 11 of 15 questions correctly to receive 7 hours of Continuing Education credit.]


Foreword/Introduction (p. 7-23)
1. How is Christa’s story different from most sexual abuse survivors?
a. She did not blame herself for the abuse.
b. She did not know her abuser.
c. She told her parents about the abuse when she was a teenager.
d. She never questioned God’s love for her.

Chapter 1: A Deep, Dark Pit (p. 25-36)

2.After Christa was first sexually abused, she
a. blamed her parents for what happened.
b. told her first-grade teacher what Walter had done.
c. created a place to hide deep down inside herself.
d. continued to enjoy childhood activities such as playing with dolls and climbing on the jungle gym.

3. Which is TRUE about sexual abuse?
a. The abused child feels like an accomplice for not stopping the abuse.
b. Often the abuser uses force.
c. Parents should not talk to their young children about sex.
d. Children who are abused usually blame their parents, not themselves.

Chapter 2: A Time to Survive, A Time to Live (p. 37-50)

4. If a child tells you she was sexually abused, it would NOT be appropriate to
a. say to her, “I’m proud of you for telling me this.”
b. tell her she is not at fault for the abuse.
c. immediately report the suspected abuse to your state agency responsible for investigating abuse.
d. ask her not to tell anyone else about the abuse.

Chapter 3: Silent Cries (p. 51-67)

5. What effect did the author’s sexual abuse have on her relationship with God?
a. She became a Christian several years after the abuse occurred.
b. She learned to openly express her doubts, despair and anger to God.
c. Throughout all her anger and hopelessness she never once doubted the very existence of God.
d. She relied upon her parents’ solid faith to get her through her darkest moments.

6. Parents need to remember that
a. meeting their children’s emotional needs makes them less of a target for sexual abuse.
b. abuse is less likely to happen in solid Christian families.
c. abused children are confident that their parents will believe their story.
d. most children who casually mention suicide will not attempt it and should therefore not be taken seriously.

Chapter 4: Facing the Truth (p. 69-82)

7. Christa’s first step toward healing from sexual abuse was when she
a. talked with a counselor.
b. told her parents about the abuse.
c. confronted her abuser.
d. read a book by an abuse survivor, Joyce Meyers.

Chapter 5: Glimpses of Light (p. 85-102)

8. The best advice that Marie, the author’s counselor, gave her was to
a. join an abuse survivors’ recovery group.
b. restore cheerful feelings by behaving in a cheerful manner.
c. pay less attention to her emotions and more to her rational conclusions.
d. read as much as she could about sexual abuse.

9. In May 1991, when the author was 15 years old, she wrote in her journal, “I think I’m going to make it.” She wrote this after
a. writing a letter to her abuser.
b. acknowledging her anger to God.
c. having “laugh attacks” with her friends at school.
d. finding a quiet place in the woods.

Chapter 6: Little Girl Lost, Little Girl Found (p. 103-112)

10. As a result of the abuse, Christa, developed a controlling perfectionism, overwhelming anxiety, and problems with authority, including her parents. What helped her to overcome these problems?
a. remembering how God gave her peace in previous anxious situations.
b. restoring a childlike spontaneity and playfulness.
c. experiencing God’s presence and power through nature.
d. all of the above.

Chapter 8: Courage Meets Confidence (p. 129-140)

11. Which book of the Bible was most helpful to Christa, where “every word, though written thousands of years before, described God’s amazing work in [her] life?”
a. Job
b. Psalms
c. Proverbs
d. John

Chapter 9: Longing for Closeness (p. 141-152)

12. As Christa took courageous steps with male friendships, she discovered
a. healing through good talks, playful teasing, and sweet laughter.
b. disappointment through endless arguments and misunderstandings.
c. a strengthening of her self-protection from being hurt and rejected.
d. a loss of trust and vulnerability.

Chapter 10: The Wrong Rock (p. 153-172)

13. Authentic love says
a. love should seek another’s highest good. To the best of my ability, I will do that for you.
b. I want you to be a total part of my life, and I want to be a total part of yours.
c. You should be sensitive to my needs. I have feelings and I need you to take that into consideration.
d. If you really care, you will treat me the way I need to be treated to feel good.

Chapter 11: Suffering and Forgiveness (p. 173-189)

14. After Christa forgave Walter,
a. they became friends.
b. she no longer felt angry toward him.
c. she saw him as a man who needed help rather than as a monster.
d. he still never admitted his wrongdoing.

Chapter 12: Wounded Healer (p. 191-210)

15. As a wounded healer, Christa
a. started a support group for sexual abuse survivors.
b. campaigned for stricter laws against abusers.
c. helped runaway teenagers at a shelter.
d. became a spokesperson for a Christian organization.