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Helping Children Survive Divorce by Dr. Archibald D. Hart (c) 1996.
Word Publishing (Nashville, TN). All rights reserved. [207 pages]
[Answer 11 of 15 questions correctly to receive 9 hours of Continuing Education credit].

Chapter 1 -- Divorced at Twelve (p 1-12)
1. In retrospect, the author believes that much of his problem behavior after his parents’ divorce was
a. just normal teenage rebellion.
b. a healthy way to express grief.
c. due to a chemical imbalance brought on by the divorce.
d. an attempt to punish his parents.

Chapter 2 -- The Damaging Effects of Divorce (p 13-29)
2. Children of different ages respond differently to divorce. Children from two to eight years of age tend to
a. regress in behavior.
b. express anger as their dominant emotion.
c. experience spiritual disillusionment.
d. withdraw into depression.

Chapter 3 -- Healing Your Resentment (p 31-46)
3. Forgiveness is
a. not remembering a wrong that was done to you.
b. denying the hurt that you experienced.
c. surrendering your right to retaliate.
d. getting someone to admit they are sorry.

Chapter 4 -- Common Mistakes Made by Divorced Parents (p 47-62)
4. The most effective way for the absent parent to relate to his/her children is by
a. calling on the phone.
b. going to movies together.
c. eating meals at a restaurant.
d. sharing common experiences.

5. If a child of a custodial parent likes spending time more with the absent parent, the custodial
parent should
a. accept it and not take it personally.
b. question if the child loves the absent parent more.
c. use less discipline in order to win more favor from the child.
d. restrict the child’s visits to the absent parent.

Chapter 5 -- Your Child’s Feelings (p 63-75)
6. As an example of reaction formation, a nine-year-old girl who says “I hate you, I hate you” to her mother
a. needs immediate counseling and possible medication.
b. is progressing toward a moderate depression.
c. really is crying out for her mother’s love and reassurance.
d. needs immediate discipline for her disrespectful attitude.

Chapter 6 -- What Children Learn from Divorce (p 77-88)
7. Which of the following does NOT improve a divorced child’s resiliency?
a. answering questions honestly within the child’s capacity to understand.
b. changing schools during the divorce.
c. giving children non-defensive and clear explanations.
d. giving children the freedom to make their own choices and decisions.

Chapter 7 -- Anxiety and the Divorced Child (p 89-102)
8. Which of the following produces the greatest decrease in a divorced child’s anxiety?
a. treating the child like an adult
b. counseling and medication
c. deep breathing exercises
d. a steady and unchanging home environment

Chapter 8 -- Anger and the Divorced Child (p 103-114)
9. An absent father can best help his son overcome an anger problem by
a. giving good advice to the boy.
b. spending time with him once each week.
c. joining a martial arts class with him.
d. spending time with him two to three times each week and talking about his anger.

Chapter 9 -- Improving Your Child’s Self-Esteem (p 115-127)
10. Which does NOT promote healthy self-esteem in a child?
a. helping a child compensate for deficient areas.
b. requiring a child to follow in the parent’s footsteps.
c. allowing a child to achieve less than the parent did at that same age.
d. accepting imperfections in the child.

Chapter 10 -- Depression and the Divorced Child (p 129-144)
11. For most children, divorce results in
a. a change of schools.
b. a change of residence.
c. a drop in their standard of living.
d. the loss of other siblings.

Chapter 11 -- Your Ex-Spouse Is Still a Parent (p 145-157)
12. When a Christian man with children divorces his wife and marries another woman who also has children, his obligation to his children in the first marriage
a. is over; he cannot be expected to keep two homes.
b. is to provide only for some of their financial needs.
c. is to provide for many of their financial needs.
d. is to provide for many of their financial and emotional needs.

Chapter 12 -- Becoming a Stepparent (p 159-170)
13. In the early stages of remarriage, when children show feelings of betrayal and anger, the new stepparent should
a. accept this as normal, not overreact with anger, and give it time.
b. take this as a sign that this remarriage isn’t going to work out.
c. discipline the children for these bad feelings.
d. make the natural parent discipline the children for these bad feelings.

Chapter 13 -- Becoming on Effective Single Parent (p 171-184)
14. The author advices single parents to
a. allow older children to help with the younger children.
b. seek remarriage as soon as possible in order to get help with parenting.
c. first live with a new partner for a year before marrying to see if the relationship will work out.
d. increase serious family activities and decrease humorous activities.

Chapter 14 -- Building a Blended Family (p 185-200)
15. With regard to a new blended family’s expectations of how they should behave, the author concludes
a. blended families usually set their expectations too low.
b. each blended family needs to find its own unique form of togetherness.
c. blended families should try to imitate other “ideal” families.
d. blended families should eat evening meals together.