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Getting Them Sober -- You Can Help!
by Toby Rice Drews
1998. (Recovery Communications: Baltimore MD) [125 pages].
[Answer 7 of 10 questions correctly to receive
5 hours of Continuing Education credit]



NOTE: These questions were written for wives married to alcoholic husbands, but can equally apply to husbands of alcoholic wives.

Chapters 1-3 (p 7-14)
1. A wife is significantly bothered by her husband’s drinking. Which of the following is TRUE?
a. If she gets angry with him, then she is responsible for his drinking.
b. As a consequence for his drinking, she should punish him by becoming enraged or not speaking to him at all.
c. When he drinks, she should maintain a safe distance, almost a detachment from him.
d. She must first determine if he is an “alcoholic” or a “social drinker”.
Chapters 4-7 (p 15-28)

2. The next time her husband seems to have been drinking, his wife should not argue with him because
a. this time she might be wrong; maybe he did not drink this time.
b. it doesn’t give him a chance to earn her trust if she keeps accusing him.
c. it only makes him drink more.
d. he will probably deny it. But even if he did admit to drinking, it won’t help him to stop; only treatment will.
Chapters 8-11 (p 29-38)

3. For the wife of an alcoholic husband, which of the following is good advice?
a. Leave Alcoholics Anonymous literature in the bathroom.
b. Spend your extra time cleaning the house or cooking.
c. Find out where he hides his alcohol.
d. You cannot prevent your husband from drinking and driving your children.
Chapters 12-13 (p 39-46)

4. If an alcoholic husband becomes threatening to himself or his wife, she should
a. call the police who will most likely arrest him.
b. leave and go to a safe place unknown to him; then get a court-ordered intervention to commit him to alcoholic treatment.
c. beg him to go to an A.A. meeting right away.
d. have him arrested but bail him out the next day when he is sober.
Chapters 14-18 (47-59)

5. Insulin is to a diabetic what ______ is to an alcoholic.
a. the next drink
b. will power
c. a good reputation
d. Alcoholics Anonymous
Chapters 19-24 (p 60-72)

6. Referring to alcoholism as a “disease” means that
a. an alcoholic’s children have no right to get angry for his broken promises.
b. an alcoholic will take the next drink unless he gets help to stay sober.
c. the alcoholic’s wife should pity her husband.
d. the alcoholic’s wife should lie to her husband’s boss in order to preserve his job.
Chapter 25-29 (p 73-87)

7. If the alcoholic husband threatens to leave his wife for another woman, his wife should
a. act as though she is not afraid of his threat.
b. remember that it is just his disease talking.
c. calmly walk out of the room instead of arguing with him.
d. all of the above.
Chapter 30-31 (p 88-94)

8. To the wife of an alcoholic, a good counselor will say:
a. “It does no good to be angry with your husband.”
b. “I don’t know how you’ve managed to put up with him this long. Why don’t you just leave him?”
c. “You have a right to yell and scream, but don’t. It will make you feel guilty for doing so, and he can then say he drinks because of you.”
d. “Yell and scream if you have to. He deserves it.”
Chapter 32-36 (p 95-107)

9. If an alcoholic husband threatens to take a drink, his wife should
a. act as though she is not afraid of his threat.
b. try to calm him down and talk him out of it.
c. explain (once again) how much this hurts her and the children.
d. wait until he drinks, and then yell at him so he doesn’t get away with it.
Chapter 37-Appendix A (p 108-125)

10. Which is TRUE?
a. A wife should not expect her husband to come home sober.
b. If a wife stops trying to catch her husband in the act of drinking, her fears will decrease.
c. If an alcoholic husband threatens to leave, his wife should offer to help pack his bags for him.
d. All of the above.