Chapter 1: The Ugly Face of Hopelessness (p. 17-33)
1. Richard Stokes, living with an alcoholic father, said that "Life in our
home was like..."
a. wanting to run away to a peaceful place.
b. walking on eggshells.
c. sitting inside a volcano waiting for the next eruption.
d. being in the ring with a professional boxer.
2. Which is TRUE about victims of abuse?
a. They often (wrongly) believe that if they improve their behavior, the
abuse would stop.
b. They often give up.
c. They feel responsible for the abused parent and siblings.
d. All of the above.
Chapter 2: We've Only Just Begun (p. 35-51) (No Quiz
Chapter 3: The Honeymoon is Over (p. 53-67)
3. After 8 years of marriage to a man who was verbally, emotionally, and
physically abusive, what eventually helped Debbie to stand up to Kenny's
a. Her friends encouraged her to
b. A counselor advised her to say No to Kenny.
c. She learned to walk closer to Jesus while detaching from Kenny's tirades.
d. She called the police and had his arrested.
4. When Argyle said to Marigold, "I do not feel like you
want to spend time with me. I feel like you don't care about me. I feel like
you want me dead," he was
a. communicating clearly and honestly with her.
b. stating his assumptions, not his feelings.
c. attempting to make Marigold feel guilty and responsible for the way he
d. b & c
5. At what point did Sophia decide to get a restraining order against her
abusive husband, Abdul?
a. After Abdul punched her in the
b. After Abdul broke into her house and stole her keys, passport,
Social Security card, and some jewelry.
c. After Abdul sent many threatening text messages.
d. By the end of Carlos' story, she had not yet decided to get a restraining
Chapter 4: Prisoner of Fear (p. 69-82)
6. During the initial stages of physical abuse, Judi's husband
a. made sure not to punch her in the stomach while she was pregnant.
b. sought help for his destructive behavior.
c. was sorrowful, repentant, and promised it would never happen again.
d. was drunk.
7. Author Jeenie Gordon
makes a habit of
a. praying every morning for a grieving family, for one year.
b. sheltering abused women.
c. working part time at a women's shelter.
d. helping to prosecute abusers.
Chapter 5: The Effects of Abuse on Children and Teens (p. 83-98)
8. Diane Gardner's nightmare of her father hitting her mother in the head,
went away when
a. she found out it had really
b. her father never hit her mother again.
c. her father eventually apologized.
d. she saw her parents laughing
9. How did Susan Titus Osborn respond to her student, Shelley, after she
wrote a true account of being repeatedly beaten by her pastor-father?
a. She told Shelley to call the police
and report her father.
b. She told Shelley to not return home but to seek safety temporarily
at a friend's house.
c. She told Shelley that after graduating from college she could move to a
community where no one knows her father and start a new life.
d. She told Shelley that Susan was required by law to report this abuse to
Chapter 6: Nowhere to Go (p. 99-114)
10. How should an abused spouse report her experiences to the police?
a. She should call the police not in the presence of the abuser, but
from a neighbor or friend's house.
b. She should not minimize the details. Law enforcement needs to know
everything so they can determine who is the primary aggressor.
c. She should keep a record of angry and abusive text messages, voice mails,
threatening letters, photographs of any damage, and journal entries.
d. All of the above.
11. What advice did Jeenie give Suzanne that she did not listen to?
a. To move to a different city.
b. To prosecute her abusive husband.
c. To go to college and prepare for a career.
d. To take her ex-husband to court for spousal support.
Chapter 7: Reality Check (p. 115-130)
12. Which is typical of an abuser?
a. Having shown cruelty to animals, siblings, or parents as a child.
b. Having a history of a restraining orders, or police reports with previous
c. Reacting violently to any statement
by his wife or girlfriend that she might leave him.
d. All of the above.
Chapter 8: Taking the Mask Off (p. 131-146)
13. What does it mean for a man to be head of his household, as the
Bible describes in Ephesians Chapter 5?
a. It means for his family to respect and trust in his decisions when he
is being responsible and loving.
b. It means for his family to obey him even when he is not being responsible
c. It means when he and wife disagree, the wife needs to let the husband
have his way.
d. It means he can use force if necessary to get his family to comply with
14. Which is NOT one of Detective Tom's tips for leaving
a. Prepare a safe place to go.
b. Have money saved ahead of time.
c. Build a support team.
d. Return to the abuser if he genuinely
15. Polly suffered verbal put-downs, destruction of
property, financial abuse, and physical injury. One evening, after being
knocked out, she awoke on the floor and saw her daughter standing in her
crib screaming. She realized she had to do something before Roy hurt her
Who advised Polly to leave her house?
a. her father
b. her brother
c. a Catholic priest
d. a police officer
Chapter 9: The Fallout of Abuse (p. 147-162)
16. Tim Williams, a pastor, learned to control his anger after
a. learning that his rage was driven by beatings his father gave him.
b. he stopped drinking.
c. he was reported to Child Protective Services.
d. he was arrested.
17. Dr. Mary Simms said that Emily had to do all of the
following recovery work EXCEPT
a. acknowledge her own anger toward her dad for abusing her mother,
herself, and her siblings.
b. acknowledge her anger toward her mother for staying too long in a
c. find a healthy church environment.
d. prosecute her husband for his physical abuse.
18. Forgiving an abuser
a. become friends with him.
b. never prosecute him.
c. not retaliate against him.
d. go back to him if he repents.
Chapter 10: The Chains Fall Off (p. 163-176)
19. What kind of abuse did Terri Martin NOT experience?
a. Forced isolation. For example, not being allowed to associate with
other church goers.
b. Unreasonable scrutiny. Having all her letters and telephone calls
c. Adultery. Her husband had multiple affairs, even getting one woman
d. Physical abuse.
20. A.G. did not hate her father for beating her because
a. she knew he acted out of his grief for losing his wife to ovarian
b. she was in denial. She should have hated him for beating her.
c. she was a strong Christian and forgave him as Christ forgave her.
d. she believed hating him would have caused even worse or more frequent
Chapter 11: No Turning Back (p. 177-190)
21. What helped Amy to make the difficult decision to leave her
a. Ed had an
ongoing habit of unfaithfulness, including multiple adulteries, looking
inappropriately at other women, and an addiction to pornography.
b. Amy incurred multiple health problems, including a severe bout of
depression, a hyperthyroid condition, adrenal fatigue, a peptic ulcer, and
c. She got a job as a church secretary to support herself and her children.
d All of the above.
22. What did Val's sister, Anne, say to her about Val's
a. "He's just using you so he doesn't have to get a real job."
b. "Sometimes emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse."
c. "You're over-reacting. He just loses his temper once in awhile."
d. "Most women who have to leave their husbands forge new and peaceful lives
23. What convinced Marge Winston that her husband, Stan,
was no longer abusive?
a. He no longer flared up in anger toward Marge and he quit calling her
b. Stan cooperated with therapy and acknowledged his own pain of having been
physically and sexually abused as a boy.
c. Stan dedicated his life to God and began attending church with Marge.
d. All of the above.
Chapter 12: Free to Live Again (p. 191-206) (No Quiz
Appendix (p. 207-221)
24. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention say that "Intimate
Partner Violence (IPV)
a. only occurs when physical contact is made.
b. is preventable.
c. affects millions of Americans.
d. is often fatal.
25. Victims of abuse do not cause the abuse. The abuser is
responsible for every act of abuse committed.