|Chapter One: Betrayal (p.
1. Which change(s) in behavior did Nancy exhibit as an
indication that she might be having an affair?
a. working longer hours
b. wearing a different style of clothes
c. comparing her husband to other men
d. all of the above
Chapter Two: Confession (p. 22-30)
2. When Nancy told her parents she was going to file
divorce papers, her father said
a. that he understood how she felt and they would
offer whatever support she needed.
b. that sometimes these things just happen and there is
little you can do about them.
c. No, youre not! Then he told her she
was responsible for at least half of the problems in her
d. that it was too bad her husband was such a jerk and
was unwilling to change.
Chapter Three -- Restoration (p. 31-39)
3. Nancy ended her affair with Jake by
a. meeting him one last time and telling him
b. calling him on the phone and telling him it was over
while her husband was listening.
c. filing a restraining order against Jake with the
d. writing him a final love letter telling him all the
wonderful memories she would cherish.
4. By forgiving Nancy, Ron was essentially saying to her
a. she deserved to be pardoned for her adultery
because he almost did the same thing to her.
b. he was never going to use her adultery as a weapon
c. he would never need to talk about her betrayal again.
d. he knew she really didnt mean to betray him.
Chapter Four : Hedges? (p. 43-52)
listening and speaking with patience and understanding.
helping each other.
keeping it fresh and fun.
agreeing on your boundaries and enforcing them.
becoming an expert on your mate.
meeting each others needs.
author compares marriage to the Biblical image of a
(Mark 12:1) that
needs to be protected by hedges. Hedges are
prevent infidelity by keeping the marriage spiritually
Most failed marriages are ruined by
b. alcoholism and abuse.
c. financial mismanagement.
d. neglect and criticism.
6. How did the author reduce her criticism of her
a. She was inspired by Scripture to be a wise woman
who builds up her house instead of a foolish woman who
pulls it down (Proverbs 14:1)
b. She asked God to help her put a guard over her mouth
so she would choose her words carefully.
c. She use Philippians 4:8 as a guide for what she should
d. all of the above.
Five: Hearing (p. 53-64)
7. A wife wanted her husband to start helping clean up
the kitchen after dinner. This way they could get the
children to bed at a decent hour and still have time for
each other. She told him how important this was her (a
ten on a scale from one to ten) and asked him
if he could begin helping tonight. This type of
a. honest and effective.
b. nagging and critical.
c. loaded with too much detail.
d. lacking humor.
Chapter Six: Encouraging (p. 65-73)
8. If a husband thinks his wife wants to have sex every
time she touches him, the wife should
a. touch him more, especially in public places.
b. go ahead and have sex.
c. touch him less.
d. tell him to stop thinking so much about sex.
Chapter Seven: Dating (p. 74-85)
9. If your marriage has become apathetic, how should you
and your spouse restore lost feelings for one another?
a. Spending some time apart should help you miss one
b. Start by behaving in simple, loving ways toward each
other (courtesies and compliments). Over time, you will
like each other more.
c. Try to resolve the big problems first. This gives you
confidence that your marriage will succeed.
d. Like most couples, you probably wont be able to
restore lost feelings. So just realistically accept this
and be content with a platonic friendship.
Kates husband exhibited which of the following
signs that he might be having an affair?
a. He began working longer hours.
b. He made love to his wife without an emotional
c. He dyed his hair.
d. all of the above.
Chapter Eight: Guarding (p. 86-97)
11. At what point did the author say that her
relationship with a co-worker (Jake) crossed the line
from innocent to dangerous?
a. when they laughed at the same jokes.
b. when they noticed they liked the same kind of music.
c. when they sat together in the lunchroom.
d. when his leg made contact with her leg and she didnt
12. The author approves of all the following workplace
behaviors EXCEPT FOR _____.
a. not riding alone in a car with the opposite sex.
b. talking about your spouse only in a positive way.
c. hugging a business associate of the opposite sex.
d. not making any lingering eye contact.
13. What solution does the author recommend if Internet
pornography is a problem?
a. Keep the computer, but discontinue Internet
b. Just pray over Scripture, such as Matthew 5:29, If
your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out.
c. Get rid of the computer.
d. Adjust the allowable content using a supervisor
password kept by your spouse.
Nine: Educating (p. 98-108)
14. A husband and wife can ease their marital
difficulties by studying 4 subjects: (1) the differences
between men and women, (2) their different personalities,
(3) their different family backgrounds, and (4) their own
individual differences. As a helpful resource, the author
recommended all of the following books EXCEPT
a. Men Are Like Waffles and Women Are Like
by Bill and Pam Farrell.
b. Personality Plus for Couples: Understanding
Yourself and the One You
Love by Florence
c. Dated Jekyll, Married Hyde: Or, Whatever
Happened to Prince Charming
by Laura Jensen Walker.
d. Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires;
The Respect He
Desperately Needs by
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Ten: Satisfying (p. 109-118)
15. Most men have affairs because of unmet physical,
sexual needs; most women have affairs because of
unsatisfied emotional needs for affection and tenderness.
Scientific research confirms that mens need for
sexual release is based upon hormonal needs
(testosterone) and that men naturally want sexual release
________. The author said on the days she and her husband
make love, he is more mellow and encouraging about things
that normally bother him. The longer he goes without
release, the more grumpy he becomes.
a. every day.
b. every 3 days.
c. once each week.
d. twice each month.