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A Biblical Guide to Counseling the Sex Addict by Steve Gallagher © 2004
(Pure Life Ministries: Dry Ridge, KY) [178 pages].
[Answer 14 of 20 questions correctly to receive 8 hours of Continuing Education credit]

Chapter One: The Foundations of Our Counsel (p. 17-29)
1. What does it mean to spiritually bear someone in habitual sexual sin?
a. to confront them with Biblical teaching, maintaining the proper balance between grace and truth.
b. to be available to them at all times, day or night.
c. to pray fervently for them.
d. all of the above.

Chapter Two: The Crux of Our Counsel (p. 30-39)
2. For understanding more about the radical inward transformation that one needs for true repentance, the author recommends that counselors read
a. The Release of the Spirit by Watchman Nee.
b. The Knowledge of the Holy by A.W. Tozer
c. Knowing God by J.I. Packer
d. My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers

3. The author says that a man caught in habitual sexual sin must replace his love of sin with a consuming love for God. What does the author say is necessary for growing in one’s love for God?
a. doing acts of charity every day.
b. a daily habit of prayer and Bible reading.
c. being more patient and tolerant.
d. regular church attendance.

Chapter Three: The Method of Our Counsel (p. 40-48)
4. In the author’s opinion, what is the source of sexual addiction?
a. damaged emotions.
b. the need for acceptance.
c. childhood traumas.
d. a prideful heart.

Chapter Four: The Tool of Our Counsel (p. 49-60)
5. Why is sexual sin running rampant within the Church?
a. Because the leaders are sinning.
b. Because Christians have lost respect for the authority of God’s word.
c. Because nearly everyone has access to the Internet.
d. Because most Christians lack discipline and self-control.

6. Which of the four functions of Scripture does a man need the most when he is strongly tempted to pursue sin and is in danger of going astray?
a. teaching
b. reproof
c. correction
d. training.

Chapter Five: The Goal of Our Counsel (p. 61-69)
7. The purpose of all true biblical counseling is
a. happiness
b. encouragement
c. Christlikeness
d. self-esteem

Chapter Six: The Nuts and Bolts of Our Counsel (p. 70-79)
8. The author quotes Matthew 7:6 and Proverbs 9:7-8 in support of which assertion?
a. Counselors should only help those who will listen to their advice.
b. Counselors should not help men who have had multiple failures.
c. If a person struggling with habitual sexual sin asks for help, then he is sincere about changing.
d. Most people are not teachable.

9. What should happen in the first counseling session?
a. Give control of the session to the counselee who often has a lot of background information to talk about.
b. Don’t refer to the authority of the Bible until later sessions.
c. Get an accurate appraisal of the sexual problems without allowing indecent or explicit details.
d. Only pray if the counselee requests it.

10. For a husband who consistently takes his wife for granted, a suggested homework assignment is asking him to write down ____ things about her for which he is grateful.
a. 3
b. 5
c. 10
d. 40

Chapter Seven: Counseling Young People (p. 81-89)
11. Which is TRUE concerning masturbation?
a. According to I Corinthians 10:13, God provides a “way out” of the temptation to masturbate and the strength to resist the urge.
b. There is usually an identifiable pattern to this temptation: the time of day, a certain place, a disappointment that stirs up the urge. Changing this pattern can help to break the habit.
c. The lesser pleasure of masturbation can be replaced with the much greater pleasure of knowing God.
d. all of the above.

Chapter Eight: Ministering to the Hurting Wife (p. 90-100)
12. After a wife discovers that her husband has struggled with habitual sexual sin, and he is sincere about changing, she should
a. closely monitor his actions to help him maintain victory over his sexual sin.
b. not question where he is going when he impulsively decides to leave the house.
c. not check his pay check to confirm the days he said he worked overtime.
d. not keep track of how he spends his money.

13. If a wife has temporarily separated from her husband who is unrepentant about his sexual sin, she should
a. call him every day to see how he is doing.
b. be calm and aloof when she talks to him.
c. talk to him each time he calls, even if he is in a rage, to promote a spirit of cooperation.
d. return to him when she misses him too much.

Chapter Ten: Assisting the Struggling Pastor (p. 118-129)
14. If a pastor has an on-going Internet pornography habit, he should
a. tell his church board but not his congregation.
b. tell his church board and his congregation.
c. tell everything he has done to his immediate supervisor.
d. tell just his wife, then join a 12-step recovery program.

15. If a pastor commits adultery, he should
a. tell his wife and immediate supervisor, resign from the ministry, and either tell his church board or write a letter to his congregation.
b. tell his wife and supervisor but continue his ministry because he stopped the adultery.
c. muster the courage to stand in the pulpit and confess his adultery to his entire congregation.
d. tell no one, quietly end the adultery, and continue his ministry to prevent damaging his congregation.

Chapter Eleven: Answers to Five Moral Questions (p. 130-143)
16. For a couple that wants to improve their love-making skills, the author recommends
a. watching a sexually explicit movie together in the privacy of their home.
b. reading the book Intended for Pleasure by Dr. Ed Wheat.
c. trying a new sex technique, even if one of the spouses is not yet comfortable with it.
d. oral sex.

17. The author believes masturbation is wrong because
a. God created sexual pleasure for two married people, not one person.
b. it is driven by lust and fantasy (which were prohibited by Jesus in Matthew 5:28).
c. it has been accepted by our modern culture which mistakenly believes that the urge is too powerful to resist. God does enable us to resist it, if we choose to obey Him.
d. all of the above.

Chapter Twelve: The Biblical Model for a Support Group (p. 145-152)
18. To the author, freedom from sexual sin means
a. always having someone to be accountable to.
b. exhibiting true brokenness and repentance before God.
c. regularly attending a support group in order to maintain sobriety.
d. viewing oneself as a recovering sex addict.

Chapter Thirteen: Birthing the Ministry (p. 153-163)
19. Which of the following is NOT true about a support group?
a. When considering potential subgroup leaders, do not disqualify someone for an occasional slip in masturbation.
b. Someone who has great Bible knowledge but doesn’t get along with others should still be a potential subgroup leader.
c. Co-ed support groups are extremely hazardous.
d. Some guys really want freedom from their habitual sin and yet they still routinely struggle.

Chapter Fourteen: Running the Group (p. 164-178)

20. Which is a good strategy for preventing group disruptions by personalities which are too controlling, talkative, or discouraging?
a. Use the interview process to talk to each man for the same amount of time.
b. Correct the disruptive person in front of the other group members.
c. Let the other group members correct the disruptive person.
d. Dismiss the disruptive person from the group.