HOW THIS BOOK IS HELPFUL TO
The Marriage You've Always Wanted
by Dr. Gary Chapman
Counselors will benefit from this book in teaching couples:
How to promote unity in their marriage.
How to improve their marriages by first improving themselves (Stop focusing on your spouse's weaknesses, ask for forgiveness for your failures, develop a clear conscience).
How a spouse can ignore negative emotions and behave in a loving manner any way.
How a wife can motivate her husband with kind words and compliments.
How to accept the imperfections of one's spouse and the irritations they cause.
How a wife should verbalize her expectations to her husband and not assume he knows what she wants.
How couples should take turns talking for several minutes without interruptions.
How a husband can listen more effectively by asking themselves, "What needs does my wife have that I am not meeting?"
How a non-talkative spouse can talk more.
How an angry spouse can learn self-control.
How a spouse can give helpful advice to their mate.
How a couple can work as a team in providing for their family and doing the work of the home.
How a couple can better make decisions after both spouses have expressed their expectations.
How to resolve sexual difficulties. Understanding the different physical-emotional responses of husbands and wives.
How couples can honor their parents while not being overly attached to them.
How to handle finances (full disclosure of assets and liabilities, talking to one's spouse before major purchases, using a written budget, avoiding buying on credit)