HOW THIS BOOK IS HELPFUL TO
Fighting For Your Marriage -- A Deluxe Revised Edition of the Classic Best Seller for Enhancing Marriage and Preventing Divorce
by Dr. Howard J. Markman, Dr. Scott M. Stanley, and Dr. Susan L. Blumberg
The authors have decades of
counseling experience and are the founders of the renowned PREP program,
Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program. Counselors will learn to teach
this program to their clients. The PREP program is based upon five principles:
1. Decide, don't slide. Make the effort to make decisions together.
2. Do your part. Do positive things for your spouse. Be responsbile for your own personal growth and mental and physical health.
3. Make it safe to connect. Understand your differences and handle conflict constructively.
4. Open the doors to positive connections. Cultivating fun, friendship, support, spirituality, and sensual connections.
5. Nurture your commitment.
In addition to the invaluable PREP program, counselors will learn:
Four destructive patterns (Escalation, Invalidation, Withdrawal and avoidance, Negative interpretations).
What to do when one spouse withdraws.
What to do when one spouse is depressed.
Cultivating good communication habits (Paying attention, Acknowledging your spouse's emotinal state, Idenitfying what we are thinking while our spouse is talking, Recognizing different styles of communication, Identifying our self-protective behavior).
Using the Speaker-Listener technique to avoid fighting while talking.
Managing one's negative emotions (anger, sadness, hostility) when they are triggered by events.
Handling deeper themes in marriage (Control and power,
Feeling loved and cared for by your spouse, Recognition for your
accomplishments, Your commitment to stay married, The integrity of your
spouse's motives, values, and standards, The desire to be accepted by your