Chapter Two: The Lowdown on Low-Sexual Desire (p. 21-36)
2. The author believes that for many spouses with low sexual desire,
a. they need to recover those strong feelings of fireworks they used to
    have when first married.
b. they don’t have a sufficient level of endorphins or oxytocin.
c. physical arousal often triggers a strong desire to continue being
    sexual. For these people, desire follows arousal, not precedes it.
d. they need to show their love in ways other than being sexual, like
    helping with household chores.

Chapter Three: What’s Causing My Desire Doldrums? (p. 37-62)
3. Which is NOT specifically mentioned as a cause of low sexual
desire?
a. low testosterone in both men and women.
b. a drop in estrogen for women during menopause.
c. alcohol.
d. owing a lot of money.

4. As a generalization, the way that wives typically feel closer to their husbands is through
a. talking; physical intimacy.
b. kind words; acts of service.
c. financial security; physical intimacy.
d. kind words; quality time.

Chapter Four: Sexy Solutions (p. 63-106)
5. The author, herself an accomplished marriage therapist, advises her readers to seek a therapist who will
a. help them understand their past upbringing.
b. help them figure out the next steps they should take.
c. provide them with great insight.
d. help them stand up for themselves even if they have to leave their
    marriages to do so.

6. How did Andrea solve her problem with not liking her own body,
not feeling attractive any more, and not having any sexual appetite?
a. She started taking evening walks with her husband.
b. She started working out at the gym 3 to 4 times each week.
c. She decided that physical attraction was just not that important,
    concentrating instead on her husband’s personality strengths.
d. She and her husband began socializing with friends on the weekends.

7. The author significantly helped a client, Sol, overcome erectile dysfunction by
a. referring to his physician for medication.
b. complimenting him on his strength and resilience, recalling fond
    memories of his grandparents’ love and kindness.
c. helping him to remember a painful molestation.
d. helping him to overcome memories of punitive, alcoholic parents.

8. If a couple is having a pleasant evening together, it is because
a. they are too tired to argue.
b. one of them is finally taking more initiative.
c. one or both of them are doing something to make it pleasant.
d. there is no specific reason why a couple might be having a pleasant
    or unpleasant evening. These things just happen.

9. Why should a wife go ahead and have sex with her husband when she is not in the mood?
a. Because she may not experience desire until she first experiences
    arousal. Once she is aroused, then sex is enjoyable.
b. Because then she can replace negative thoughts about sex that are
    triggered by her husband’s touch with positive thoughts about sex.
c. Because her husband might be nicer and more loving in return.
d. All of the above.

Chapter Five: What About Me? (p. 109-120)
10. Of the following, which is the best explanation for why some people might have a drop in sexual desire after getting married?
a. During courtship, they just faked a higher interest in sex in order
    to keep their fiancées interested.
b. They fell out of love after encountering the typical hardships that
    marriage usually brings.
c. After marriage, their spouses gained weight, like most people do,
    therefore losing their physical attractiveness.
d. They had low desire to begin with, but the newness of the
    relationship spiked their testosterone level, giving them a temporary
    higher sex drive. After the newness wore off, their testosterone level
    returned to its usual low level.

Chapter Six: The Harder I Try, the Worse Things Get (p. 121-130)
11. In order for more sexual spouses to evaluate their behavior, which question should they NOT ask?
a. How can I convince my spouse of what I think is the real cause of
    their low sexual desire?
b. What have I been doing, saying, or thinking on a regular basis about
    the sexual problems between me and my spouse?
c. Is what I’m doing working, or pushing my spouse further away?
d. What would my spouse say that I’ve been doing or saying lately in
    regard to our sexual differences that is absolutely driving him or her
    nuts?

Chapter Seven: Melting the Ice (p. 131-171)
12. An example of a clear, action-oriented goal is
a. “I would like to have a more active sex life.”
b. “I want you to rub my back during foreplay.”
c. “I want my partner to be more passionate when we make love.”
d. “I want to make love, not have sex.”

13. The first strategy that the author lists for boosting sexual desire is
a. spending time together.
b. physical touch.
c. cultivating romance.
d. taking medication.

14. What technique does the author recommend for a wife to reduce
her nagging?
a. To use sex as a reward for getting her husband to be more helpful
    around the house.
b. To practice saying kinder, more complimentary words to her
    husband even if she doesn’t feel like it.
c. To maintain a vigorous exercise program in order to use up excess
    energy she usually expends through criticism.
d. To ask her closest female friends if they perceive her as being
    too critical or negative.

15. Which of the following does the author NOT advise?
a. Reflect upon what you were doing in your marriage at the time
    your sexual relationship was good and duplicate those behaviors.
b. Plan on being more sexual when your spouse’s testosterone level
    rises.
c. Be more subtle and indirect about your sexual intentions.
    Being clear and direct can be a turn-off.
d. If you are a husband, tell your wife how sexual togetherness is
    more than a physical release. Tell her it gives you a sense of
    closeness, reminds you of your love for her, and bolsters your
    sense of manliness.

16. In the section “Good Things Come in Smart Packages,” how did the husband finally motivate his wife to be more affectionate?
a. He initiated more nonsexual hugging and touching.
b. He told her how unhappy he was.
c. He used what truly motivated her -- the children -- and asked her,
   “Don’t you think it would be better for them if they saw us hugging
    and kissing and loving each other?”
d. He threatened to divorce her.

17. What is the best response of a wife who has gained a significant amount of weight and whose husband has lovingly expressed a lack of interest in her sexually because of this?
a. She should ask her husband to try to love her just the way she is.
b. She should help her husband understand that, over time, most people
    will gain weight and still maintain sexual desire for one another.
c. She should tell her husband that he will always have a greater sex
    drive than she does and that he should go ahead and satisfy himself.
d. She should accept the fact that her appearance affects her husband’s
    sexual desire and she should therefore take steps to lose weight
    without resentment.

Chapter Eight: Can We Talk? (p. 175-184)
18. Which is NOT true about good communication?
a. Even if you are very angry, do not criticize or condemn when making
    your opening statement.
b. Describe the specific behavior that is bothering you rather than calling
    your spouse disrespectful or insensitive.
c. Once started, it is best to finish a conversation, no matter how
    heated it gets, or it won’t get resolved.
d. Describe how you would like to be treated rather than calling your
    spouse critical or controlling.

Chapter Nine: Sex Talk (p. 185-197)
19. After not making love for 2 years, Edie and Roy were on the verge
of divorce. What turned their marriage around?
a. They began making love several times each week.
b. Roy’s depression improved considerably after beginning medication.
c. Edie made more of an effort in describing how important love-making
    was to her.
d. Roy began holding her and telling her she was beautiful; Edie began
    listening to him when was discouraged.

Chapter Ten: Afterglow (p. 198-200)
20. On a personal note, the author ended her book by saying that
a. After 3 decades of marriage, she and her husband make love all
    the time.
b. Even though she and her husband make love occasionally, they
    are best friends.
c. She and husband make love less than when they were first married.
d. She was going to call her husband and ask him if he wanted to fool
    around.