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The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex -- Building a Passionate, Intimate, and Fun Love Life by Clifford & Joyce Penner © 2004
(Tyndale House Publishers: Wheaton, IL)
[Answer 11 of 15 questions correctly to receive 11 hours of Continuing Education credit.]
  Chapter Two: Does Good Sex Just Happen? (p. 11-15)
1. A wife is affirmed by her husband’s sexual interest when
a. he shows interest in her body.
b. he takes the lead in pursuing her.
c. he is in good physical condition.
d. she feels honored, adored, and cared for by him.

2. The authors view ____ as a barometer for a couple’s intimacy and passion.
a. regular and passionate kissing.
b. sexual touching.
c. saying, “I love you.”
d. gift giving.

Chapter Three: Go Her Way (. P. 27-41)

3. Of the following activities for a husband, which will have the greatest likelihood of increasing his wife’s sexual openness and interest?
a. when he compliments his wife on her physical attractiveness.
b. when he learns to bring his wife to multiple orgasms.
c. when he comes home and helps with the domestic chores.
d. when he comes home and grabs his wife sexually.

4. Good sexual advice to husbands includes
a. following his wife’s lead by having her tell him what kind of touch she would appreciate right now.
b. the husband not touching his wife in the same spot each time.
c. the husband going slow; using a gentle, circular motion in his touch; and building intensity through teasing (moving toward and then away from erotic stimulation).
d. all of the above

Chapter Four: Your Rights -- Are Yours Hers? (p. 43-49)

5. When it comes to a husband’s sexual rights, the authors believe the Bible teaches that
a. a wife should agree to sexual intimacy whenever the husband requests it.
b. a husband should talk and cuddle with his wife, expecting that this will put her in the mood for sex.
c. sometimes a husband may have to give up his right to sexual fulfillment in order to love his wife as Christ loved the church.
d. all of the above

Chapter Five: Sex is not a Spectator Sport (p. 51-59)

6. This chapter advises a husband not to “hover”, meaning not to monitor the sexual response he is getting from his wife. Instead of evaluating his wife’s sexual responsiveness, the husband should
a. ask her “Would you like to make love tonight?”
b. ask her “ Am I touching the right spot?”
c. ask her “Did you have an orgasm?”
d. start kissing her gently and accept whatever response he receives.

7. Which is TRUE?
a. A man’s masculinity depends upon his wife’s sexual responsiveness.
b. A wife’s sexual hunger will usually increase when her husband’s sexual enthusiasm deliberately lags behind hers.
c. It’s OK for a man to need sex in order to feel good about himself.
d. Victims of sexual abuse tend to be highly sexual within marriage.

Chapter Seven: When Sex Isn’t Working? (p. 71-93)

8. Contrary to popular opinion, many men struggle with low sexual desire. This is true for
a. the co-dependent lover.
b. the lazy lover.
c. the avoidant lover.
d. the possessive lover.

9. The authors list the three greatest reasons why a wife may not be interested in sex. These do NOT include
a. The wife is overweight.
b. The wife associates sex with emotional pain, trauma, disappointment, or violation.
c. The wife’s husband pursues sex too aggressively.
d. The wife grew up with an alcoholic parent.

Chapter Eight: Affair Proof Your Marriage (p. 95-104)

10. The “Penner Formula” for a lasting marriage is
a. making sure your spouse’s emotional marital bank account is kept full.
b. maintaining 5 positive interactions for every negative one.
c. investing at least 15 minutes/day, one evening/week, one day/month, and one weekend/season.
d. learning to speak your spouse’s love language.

Chapter Nine: Have an Adventure with Your Wife (p. 105-111)

11. Dan and Kate’s adventure began when
a. they went away for a weekend.
b. Dan invited her to lunch.
c. Kate put on seductive clothing.
d. Dan bought her some expensive jewelry.

Chapter Ten: The Working Side of Sex (p. 113-123)

12. Which is TRUE?
a. Sexual goals inhibit sexual desire.
b. Scheduling sex results in a boring sex life.
c. Passionate kissing comes naturally to most couples.
d. When a compromise cannot be reached between sexual preferences,
    always go with the more conservative spouse.

Chapter Eleven: The Lighter Side of Sex (p. 125-132)

13. When a husband does something thoughtful and tender for his wife,
a. she will usually respond sexually.
b. she will only demand more.
c. he must freely do it without demanding sex in return.
d. it is normal for him to want something in return.

Chapter Thirteen: Pornography and The Internet (p. 141-151)

14. For sexual addiction recovery, the authors highly endorse the treatment approach of
a. Dr. Patrick Carnes (Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction)
b. Steve Gallagher A (At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry).
c. Harry Schaumburg (False Intimacy).
d. Douglas Weiss (Steps to Freedom: Christian 12 Step Guide for Sex Addiction Recovery).

Chapter Fourteen: A Word the Wives is Sufficient (p. 153-169)

15. In alternating between closeness and giving her husband space, a wife should think of talking to her husband in blocks of time for
a. 15 to 30 minutes.
b. 30 to 45 minutes.
c. 45 minutes to 1 hour.
d. 60 to 90 minutes.