Chapter One: What
Does God Think About Sex? (p. 3-11)
God gave the gift of sex in
marriage to create children, for intimate oneness,
intimate knowing, for pleasure,
comfort, and a defense against temptation.
Chapter Two: How Can I Be Godly and Sensuous? (p. 13-21)
1. In the Bible, the Song of Solomon teaches all of the following EXCEPT
a. God is present during marital love-making.
b. God wants married couples to rejoice in their sensuality and fully enjoy it.
c. Sexual intimacy is separate from spiritual intimacy.
d. Sexual intercourse in marriage is a picture of Christ’s union with
Christian believers.
Chapter Three: How Do I Shift into Sexual Gear? (p. 23-31)
2. In the Song of Solomon, what was the Shulamith thinking about while making love to her husband?
a. whether or not she would have an orgasm.
b. every part of her husband’s naked body.
c. romantic poetry.
d. whether or not she was pleasing her husband.
Chapter Four: How Can I Relate When He’s a Microwave and I’m a Crockpot?
(p. 33-43)
3. Most wives cannot achieve orgasm without
a. romance.
b. an active imagination.
c. a long conversation.
d. a direct stimulation of the clitoris.
HOW HUSBANDS AND WIVES DIFFER SEXUALLY (ON
AVERAGE)
1. Husbands take longer to switch between the
left- and right-brain functions
because they have fewer connecting nerve
endings than their wives.
Consequently, during love making, husbands
usually focus on one thing
(the act of love-making) while wives can think of
several things at the same
time, often appearing to be disinterested in
their husbands.
SUGGESTION: A wife should train herself to
mentally focus on her husband’s body.
2. Husbands are usually ready for sexual activity
sooner than their wives because
husbands have seventeen sexual
glands that constantly produce a build-up of
semen, creating a yearning for
release. In contrast, the sexual desire of wives’
builds more slowly, based upon
an accumulation of physical caresses.
SUGGESTION: Outside the bedroom, a wife should monitor
her desire and initiate
sex with her husband when her estrogen level is high.
3. Wives generally need to talk more than
husbands do.
SUGGESTION: During love-making, a wife should tell her
husband something
positive about his skill as a good lover. A husband’s lack of verbal
expression is normal.
4. Most husbands are stimulated visually.
SUGGESTION: A wife should display her body seductively
to her husband.
5. A husband needs about 2 to 3 minutes of stimulation
to have orgasm.
A wife needs about 20 to 30
minutes.
SUGGESTION: A wife should tell her husband where to
specifically touch her.
6. Most wives’ emotional needs can be met simply be
being held by their husbands,
without engaging in sexual
activity. Most husbands emotional needs cannot be
met without sexual activity.
SUGGESTION: Regularly engage in sexual
activity with your spouse.
Chapter Five: What Do I Do When I Don’t Want to Do It? (p. 45-53)
4. If a wife doesn’t want to make love to her husband in a particular
moment, the authors suggest she can all of the following EXCEPT
a. view her body as a gift she can give to her husband.
b. tell him she is too tired to respond right now but that she would like
to give love to him.
c. praise God for creating such a beautiful way to relate to her.
d. view sex as more for her husband’s benefit than for her own benefit.
FOUR WAYS FOR A WIFE TO JUMP START HER SEXUAL DESIRE
1. Take testosterone and zinc.
2. Exercise your PC muscle (pubococcygeal).
3. Maintain a regular exercise program.
4. Take natural aphrodisiacs: kava, saw palmetto, and damiana.
Chapter Six: Where Can I Go to Buy a New Body? (p. 55-65)
5. Statistics indicate that 95% of people who lose weight gain it all back within 5 years. However, the authors did recommend
a. the Weight Watchers program.
b. the South Beach Diet.
c. the Atkins Diet.
d. NutriSystem.
Chapter Seven: How Do I Make Love with Children Wrapped Around My Knees
(p. 67-78)
6. To make sex a priority for married couples with children, the authors advise all of the following except
a. having the children sleep in their own bedrooms.
b. waiting until the kids get older. Then you will have more time for making love.
c. hiring a trained babysitter to watch the kids so you and your spouse can have an evening out.
d. writing Scripture verses on cards and then praying to God for the energy to make love.
Chapter Eight: How Can I Get Over the Guilt of Past Sexual Sin?
(p. 81-90)
7. Which is TRUE about getting over the guilt of past sexual sin?
a. Once you are forgiven you won’t struggle with guilt any more.
b. After you ask God for forgiveness you should feel forgiven.
c. It is important to confess every act of intimate touching or sexual intercourse outside of marriage.
d. Once forgiven you will experience immediate progress in your view of sex.
Chapter Nine: I’m Attracted to Another Man! Help? (p. 91-103)
8. What practical suggestions do the authors make for a wife who is attracted to another man?
a. Do whatever you can to avoid him.
b. Practice the spiritual disciplines of prayer, Scripture memorization, and fasting.
c. Focus her thinking on her husband’s strengths rather than his shortcomings.
d. all of the above.
Chapter Ten: How Can I Remain Faithful in a Faithless World?
(p. 106-118)
9. For a wife nurturing her own marriage, the authors did NOT advise
a. remembering her wedding day.
b. repenting of allowing her marriage to sink into mediocrity and routine.
c. doing something concrete to show her love for her husband every day for the next month.
d. doing whatever makes her happy.
Chapter Eleven: What Do I Do When He Has a Headache?
(p. 119-132)
10. How did Christi eventually handle the pain of being sexually
rejected by her husband?
a. She chose to focus on Christ, accept her husband’s lack of desire as his problem, not to insult him when she was rejected, and
live in peace.
b. She got him a prescription for Viagra.
c. She built up his masculinity by telling him how much she respected his spiritual leadership, provision, and his love for their
children.
d. She persuaded him to begin and maintain a regular exercise program which increased his testosterone.
Chapter Twelve: How Can I Get Rid of Guilt over My Abortion
(p. 133-146)
11. Some of the documented effects of Post-abortion Syndrome (PAS)
are: guilt, self-destructive behaviors, anxiety, numbness, depression,
eating disorders, reduced motivation, flashbacks, diminished interested
in sex, and preoccupation with becoming pregnant. Following an abortion, ___
of women admit experiencing negative psychological effects.
a. 34%
b. 54%
c. 74%
d. 94%
Chapter Thirteen: My Husband Is into Pornography -- What Should I Do? (p.
147-162)
12. After a wife discovers her husband’s problem with pornography, what should she NOT do?
a. Pray for God to expose her husband’s secret sins so that he may be found out and get help.
b. Read the Bible for comfort that God is with her in her suffering, such as Psalm 34:18, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.”
c. Immediately increase sexual activity with her husband, knowing that this will reduce his need for pornography.
d. Tell her husband she will not be acting out any sexual fantasies that he has derived from pornography.
Chapter Fourteen: Is It Possible to Get Beyond the Pain of Sexual Abuse?
(p. 163-174)
13. What did both Paula and Sarah do to promote their own healing from past
sexual abuse?
a. They listened to soothing music.
b. They read and memorized Scripture verses.
c. They confessed their sins of hatred and their desire for vengeance.
d. They finally answered the question, “Why didn’t God stop my abuser?”
Chapter Fifteen: How Can Sex Go from Boring to Sizzling?
(p. 178-185)
14. In this chapter, the authors suggest creative ways to keep marital
love-making exciting by using fragrances, compliments, poetic names
for sexual body parts, provocative dancing, and sexual get-aways.
They derived all these ideas from
a. sex therapists.
b. women’s magazines.
c. the Song of Solomon in the Bible.
d. Internet web sites.
Chapter Sixteen: What’s the Big Deal About Orgasm? (p. 187-197)
15. Which is NOT true about female orgasm?
a. In order for a wife to climax, she must focus on whether or not her husband is pleased rather than on her physical pleasure.
b. A wife should tell her husband where to touch her and how much pressure he should apply.
c. Female orgasm occurs when muscles contract and there is an explosive release, creating beautiful, sensuous sensations.
d. The PC muscle (pubococcygeal) controls the intensity and frequency of a wife’s climaxes.
Chapter Seventeen: What’s Not Okay in Bed (p. 199-206)
16. In discerning whether or not a sexual practice is permissible by God, the authors recommend asking which questions?
a. Is it prohibited in Scripture?
b. Is it beneficial or harmful to either the husband or wife?
c. Does it involve anyone outside the marriage?
d. all of the above.
Chapter Eighteen: Are Quickies Okay with God? (And Other What-Is-Normal
Questions) (p. 207-217)
17. The authors define “successful sex” as
a. free, mature, creative, and integrated.
b. free, mature, traditional, and orgasmic.
c. spontaneous, mature, creative, and orgasmic.
d. free, orgasmic, creative, and integrated.
18. The authors tell the story of a married couple, Anna and Nick, who schedule exciting, love-making appointments with each other.
a. They are newly weds in their first year of marriage.
b. They are in their sixties and have been married for over 40 years.
c. They have plenty of free time because they are retired.
d. They do this because they have lost the joy of spontaneity.
Chapter Nineteen: How Can I Recapture the Passion? (p. 219-230)
19. A study at UCLA found that in order to maintain emotional and
physical health, men and women needed ____ each day.
a. 7 to 8 hours of restful sleep
b. a change of pace
c. a balanced diet
d. 8 to 10 meaningful, physical touches
Chapter Twenty: How Long Does It Take to Become a Godly, Sensuous Woman?
(p. 231-239)
20. After having been sexually abused as a child and having gotten pregnant
out of wedlock, Valerie shut down her sexual feelings and focused on growing
spiritually. She put her sensuous feelings in one
box and God in another box. From her journal entry for September 16th,
what finally helped Valerie to integrate the sensuous and the spiritual?
a. She utilized the powerful sense of smell with perfume, scented
candles, and potpourri.
b. She learned to give long, sensuous massages to her husband.
c. She became skilled in dressing sensuously for her husband.
d. She read in the Song of Solomon about God standing over the Shulamith and Solomon and blessing their union.
