4. When the author’s client, a wife, attempted to win back her adulterous husband by being the best wife she could be, what effect did this have on their children?
a. They performed better in school.
b. They drew closer to both parents.
c. They shamed their father for how he had treated their mother.
d. They lost respect for their mother and began to mistreat her.

Chapter Five: “Be Angry, and Yet Do Not Sin” -- Anger is Your Friend in a Marital Crisis (p. 39-52)
5. The author says, “There is only one way you can motivate your
husband to work with you to create a new, healthy marriage out of the ashes of the one he destroyed. You must ____.
a. produce sustained, intense anger.
b. make changes he has always wanted you to make, since a large part
    of the reason he had the affair was marital unhappiness.
c. do whatever you possibly can to do to forgive him as soon as possible.
d. try to understand the reasons why he had the affair.

Chapter Six: From Welcoming Mat to Slamming Door -- How to Get Mad and Stay Mad (p. 53-67)
6. In this chapter, the author wants the wife to assume the posture of
a. a wife who thanks her husband for doing chores and running errands.
b. a furious, uncompromising ice queen.
c. a wife who recalls all the fond memories of her marriage.
d. a wife who forgives the other woman.

7. Which of the following responses to stupid statements does the author NOT recommend?
a. STUPID COMMENT: “I haven’t been happy.”
    YOUR COMMENT: “Show me in the Bible where God promises
    happiness. Is it in the same section where God says, “Be holy, even
    as I am holy”?
b. STUPID COMMENT: “I wasn’t in the will of God when I married you.”
    YOUR COMMENT: “Maybe not, but after marriage, it’s God’s will that
    you stay married. Did you think adultery was God’s will?”
c. STUPID COMMENT: “I think breaking up is best for the kids.”
    YOUR COMMENT: “Yeah, you’re right. Having their self-esteem,
    confidence, and security destroyed will be good for them. Did you think
    your illicit relationship with this woman was also best for them?”
d. STUPID COMMENT: “If you’d met my needs, I wouldn’t have had the
    affair.”
    YOUR COMMENT: “You’re right. I’m not perfect. But I still love you
    and don’t want our marriage to end.”

Chapter Seven: “Stop Your Adultery Right Now!” -- How to End the Affair and Make Sure It’s Over (p. 69-79)
8. A wife should tell her adulterous husband to end the affair immediately. If he doesn’t, the wife should tell her husband to get out of their home.
If he refuses to leave, she should shift into a shunning and separation
mode. The author justifies this “tough, harsh, unyielding approach” by referring to the biblical example of
a. the prophet Nathan’s strong confrontation of King David’s adultery
    (II Samuel 12).
b. Jesus calling the hypocritical Pharisees whitewashed tombs full of
    dead men’s bones and all uncleanness (Matthew 23).
c. the apostle Paul telling the Corinthians to remove sexually immoral
    church members from among themselves (I Corinthians 5).
d. all of the above.

9. Which does the author NOT advise?
a. The husband should end the affair over the phone with his wife listening
    in on the extension. He should tell the other woman he never loved her
    and that she should never contact him again. If she attempts to call him
    or e-mail him, he should not respond, but report these attempts to his
    wife.
b. The wife should contact the other woman and threaten to take legal
    action if she ever contacts her husband again.
c. The husband must throw out every gift he received from the other
    woman. If they work at the same company, one of them must quit.
    If they attend the same church, one of them must leave and find a
    new church. The husband must get a new cell phone.
d. The husband must be tested now and 6 months from now for AIDS and
    STDs (sexually transmitted diseases).

Chapter Eight: The Truth, the Whole Truth, and Nothing But the
Truth -- You Will Be Told Everything In Spoken Words and in Writing (p. 81-97)
10. The author believes that the adulterous husband should disclose
the “entire, sordid, disgusting, sinful story” of his relationship to the other woman except for the “gory details” (p. 82). The gory details refers to how they performed their sexual actions. ALL of the following are considered gory details (and therefore NOT disclosable) EXCEPT for
a. the feelings the husband thought he had for the other woman.
b. what they did in foreplay.
c. what sexual positions they used.
d. a detailed description of the other woman’s body and what the husband
    thought about it.

11. Which is NOT true about THE DOCUMENT?
a. The husband reads it out loud to his wife in a stoic, dispassionate,
    and unemotional tone of voice.
b. It creates empathy in the husband for the hurt, anguish, and devastation
    he has caused his wife as he watches her facial reactions when he
    reads the document out loud.
c. It helps to kill his feelings for the other woman as he reads aloud his
    secretive behaviors. These behaviors, when secretive, formed strong
    feelings for the other woman, but when read out loud, they now appear
    as cheap, sleazy, sinful, and revolting.
d. It provides a biblical form of punishment for the husband breaking his
    marital covenant with his wife. The purpose of this punishment is to
    make the husband painfully suffer humiliation so that he will repent and
    be restored to God and his wife (Deuteronomy 28:20-57).

Chapter Nine: It’s Time to Heal -- You Vent, You Questions, You Find Out Why (p. 99-115)
12. A wife’s obsession with the details of her husband’s affair for two to three months after it’s over
a. is excessive and an indication that the wife should focus on the positive
    changes her husband is making.
b. is too vindictive and counterproductive for marital healing.
c. is normal and necessary to fully recover from the trauma of betrayal.
d. is healthy as long as it is done silently.

13. In the sample Document of Response, what did the betrayed wife MOST OF ALL from her husband?
a. to leave their home until he reached full repentance.
b. a detailed explanation of why he committed adultery.
c. unlimited patience in listening to her many questions about the specifics
    of his adultery.
d. to become a godly man, sensitive to God’s leading, His Word and His will.

Chapter Ten: Back Away Quickly -- When to Shun and How to Shun (p. 117-126)
14. The Bible teaches us to follow a progressive series of steps when dealing with someone who chooses to continue in serious sin. First, you warn the person (I Thessalonians 5:14 and Titus 3:10-11). Second, you shun the person (I Corinthians 5:9-11; II Thessalonians 3:6, 14-15). Third, you separate from the person (Matthew 18:15-17). For a wife whose husband has committed adultery, the first five days of shunning include
a. going as far as you can go to act as though he doesn’t exist.
b. not speaking to him, not doing his laundry, not fixing his meals, not
    sleeping in the same bedroom.
c. telling the children why you are ignoring Daddy.
d. all of the above.

Chapter Eleven: Bring Down the Hammer -- When All Else Fails, Separate (p. 127-138)
15. The author advises the wife she can end the separation after the first two months only when stringent conditions are met by the husband. These include:
a. meeting at least weekly with a counselor and a spiritual mentor, both
    chosen by the wife.
b. memorizing Proverbs Chapter 5 and reciting it to his wife over the
    phone with his spiritual mentor by his side.
c. signing a legal, witnessed, and notarized document stating that if he
    ever commits adultery again, he will give his wife the home, life
    insurance, alimony (determined by the wife’s attorney), and custody
    of the children.
d. all of the above.

Chapter Twelve: The Bible’s Approach Is the Best Approach -- What God Says About Marriage and Adultery (p. 139-150)
16. ______’s disgust and hatred of adultery led him to write that with the exception of idolatry and unbelief, God punishes no sin as severely as
He does sexual misconduct.
a. Martin Luther
b. St. Augustine
c. Dietrich Bonhoffer
d. C.S. Lewis

Chapter Thirteen: From a Dead Marriage to a Brand-New Love
(p. 151-163)

Chapter Fourteen: Questions and Answers -- Common Questions About Recovery from Adultery (p. 165-178)
17. Which is TRUE?
a. The author believes that some couples can fully recover from an affair
    without using his “abrasive, drill sergeant” approach.
b. If you had an affair many years ago, you should not tell your spouse
    now.
c. Even though you might be responsible for 50 percent of the marital
    problems, your husband is 100 percent responsible for his adultery.
d. There is never a reason to tell your husband’s family or friends about
    his adultery.

Chapter Fifteen: Living in a Loveless Marriage -- It’s Not Adultery
But It’s Still Serious Sin (p. 181-190)
18. What does the Bible say happens to a husband who treats his wife poorly?
a. It doesn’t address this situation.
b. God will not answer his prayers.
c. God won’t do anything about it because He will not violate a husband’s
    free will, even if it is wrongly used.
d. The wife should still submit to her husband anyway.

19. During Step 7, what consequences did Shawna give her husband, Mike, each time he slipped and was verbally abusive?
a. There was no sexual intimacy that day.
b. Mike had to do his own laundry and fix his own meals.
c. Mike had to do a nasty household chore such as clean a toilet,
    shower stall, or wax the kitchen floor.
d. Mike had to spend the night somewhere else.

Chapter Seventeen: You Have Nothing to Lose and Everything to Gain -- With God’s Help. Put Matthew 18 Love to Work (p. 207-214)
20. If a husband used to be a good and caring husband but has recently pulled back from his wife and says he doesn’t love her like he used to,
the author believes that
a. he is on the verge of having an affair or is already having one.
b. he might have a secret habit of viewing pornography.
c. he has not worked to develop a deep emotional and spiritual bond with
    his wife.
d. Any of the above could be a possible cause for the husband’s change
    in behavior.