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False Intimacy -- Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction
by Dr. Harry W. Schaumburg
1997
(Navpress: Colorado Springs, CO) [247 pages]
[Answer 14 of 20 questions correctly to receive 12 hours of Continuing Education credit].

 

Chapter 1: What is Sexual Addiction? (p 13-34)
1. The primary goal of sexually addictive behavior is
a. to achieve orgasm.
b. to find new sources of sexual pleasure.
c. to avoid relational pain.
d. to reduce stress.
 
2. Most professionals agree that sexual addiction exists when
a. a person masturbates every week.
b. a husband visits a prostitute after getting angry with his wife.
c. a man lusts after an attractive woman.
d. a person's sexual behavior becomes uncontrollable regardless of the consequences to health, family, and/or career.
 
Chapter 2: Sexually Addictive Behavior (p 35-55)

3. If a counselor has sex with a client, it is
a. always exploitative because it is an abuse of trust, power, and dependence.
b. not exploitative if the client agrees.
 
Chapter 3: What Causes Sexual Addiction? (p 57-74)

4. The essence of sin is
a. autonomy from God.
b. wrong choices.
c. addictive behavior.
d. loss of control.
 
5. When the author counsels sex addicts, he asks them to
a. abstain from all sexual behavior for 90 days.
b. identify their real, often hidden, goals.
c. acquire a sponsor.
d. commit to a recovery group.
 
Chapter 4: Hope for Those Who Are Sexually Addicted (p 75-99)

6. A written sexual history includes
a. both positive and negative events and memories.
b. spiritual and religious influences on your sexuality.
c. parental and family messages or attributes about sex.
d. all of the above.
 
7. Dr. Larry Crabb states: "To trust God means _____".
a. to demand nothing.
b. to believe God will alleviate your suffering.
c. to experience a positive change.
d. to have your needs met.
 
Chapter 5: Responding to Your Sexually Addicted Spouse (p 101-129)

8. The author believes that the most common way people protect themselves from being hurt by others is through
a. isolation.
b. superficiality.
c. contempt.
d. rationalization.
 
9. One of the most constructive ways for a wife of a sex addict to deal with intense anger toward her husband is to
a. yell at her husband.
b. keep it inside.
c. talk with a girlfriend who is also married to a sex addict.
d. talk with an objective third person.
 
10. When a wife discovers that her husband has been having sex with other women, she should
a. suspend sexual relations with him until they can both be tested for sexually transmitted diseases.
b. continue sexual relations with him to deter his sexually addictive behavior.
c. make herself more sexually desirable.
d. agree to participate in whatever sexual activities please her husband.
 
Chapter 6: The Recovering Marriage (p 131-147)

11. True brokenness results in
a. trusting in God Himself, not what He is going to do for us.
b. God protecting us from horrible circumstances.
c. giving up wanting a good marriage, job, family, etc.
d. learning what God is trying to teach us.
 
Chapter 7: Women and False Intimacy (p 149-159)

12. The most common response of wives married to sex addicts is to
a. become more sexual with their husbands.
b. close down sexually.
c. have an affair.
d. develop a drinking problem.
 
Chapter 8: Preventing Sexual Addiction in Your Children (p 161-186)

13. Knowing God intimately results only when we acknowledge
a. the importance of a morning devotional with prayer and Bible reading.
b. our dependence upon other Christians for support and encouragement.
c. the necessity of regular church attendance and involvement.
d. that we cannot make everything turn out all right on our own.
 
14. Golden Valley Sexual Dependence Unit in Minnesota reports that more than ___ of the sex addicts they treat have been sexually abused.
a. 20%
b. 39%
c. 62%
d. 81%
 
15. Which of the following is NOT true?
a. Most child abusers are strangers.
b. Most child abusers take time to win the child's trust by providing favors and making the child feel special.
c. Most child molesters threaten to hurt the child if the child tells someone about the abuse.
d. If a child feels uncomfortable with a particular baby-sitter, the parents should find another one.
 
Chapter 9: Sexual Addiction in the Church (p 187-206)

16. In this chapter, the author concludes that sexual addiction is so prevalent in the church because
a. Christian parents are doing a poor job of raising their children correctly.
b. Christians care too much about looking good on the outside and not enough about the inward condition of their hearts.
c. the high divorce rate has broken down the family unit in America.
d. Biblical teaching on sexual behavior is often unclear.
 
17. In calling God the "Cosmic Sadist" and the "Great Vivisector", _________ realized that we cannot judge God's goodness by how He responds, intervenes, changes, or improves the circumstances of our lives. God does not exist simply to solve each and every problem we have.
a. Charles Spurgeon
b. John Stott
c. C.S. Lewis
d. Oswald Chambers
 
18. Which is TRUE?
a. Sexual sins are worse that other sins.
b. Sexual addiction is a disease.
c. Simply exhorting the sex addict to stop his behavior is not very helpful.
d. Most sex addicts are possessed by "sexual demons".
 
Chapter 10: The Church as a Healing Community (p 207-218)

19. The author's recommended healing strategy for sex addicts can be characterized by:
a. immediate relief through Christ.
b. God's guarantee to meet our needs.
c. a confrontation of shock and dismay at the sex addict's behavior.
d. patience, endurance, perseverance, and hope.
 
Chapter 11: Healing for Christian Leaders (p 219-235)

20. Which is TRUE of the restoration process?
a. Generally, a pastor should resign if he made any physical sexual contact with a church member.
b. Most states require sexually exploitative behavior to be reported.
c. Avoiding graphic details, a fallen pastor should tell his wife and older children the type of sexually offensive behavior he engaged in.
d. all of the above.