Chapter 3: Change Yourself, Not Him (p. 37-54)
3. The best way for a wife to stop obsessing about trying to change her husband is to
a. eliminate behaviors that give her information about him (watching him,
    checking up on him, asking him questions).
b. do more nice things for him.
c. get him to regularly attend a men’s accountability group.
d. understand her childhood patterns and past relationships.

4. In a difficult marriage, many “normal expectations” will be unfulfilled. Which is the best strategy for a wife whose husband never takes out the trash?
a. Keep asking him politely to take it out.
b. Let it pile up and overflow until he takes it out.
c. Have her children take it out.
d. Take it out herself with a good attitude.

Chapter 4: Detach with Love (p. 55-68)
5. If a husband says to his wife “I wouldn’t need pornography if you
weren’t so fat,” she should
a. develop an exercise program.
b. takes no responsibility whatsoever for his pornographic habit.
c. get angry with him.
d. explain to him how pornography degrades women.

6. When a husband is being angry and argumentative, his wife should
a. listen politely without saying anything inflammatory.
b. tell him he is being unreasonable and immature.
c. try to be rational and agreeable.
d. talk to him later when he calms down.

Chapter 5: Nurture Yourself (p. 69-81)
7. Which of the following is “constructive guilt”?
a. A wife who feels guilty because she can’t cook.
b. A wife who feels guilty for past sexual sins.
c. A wife who exercises more self-control after feeling guilty for losing
    her temper.
d. A wife who feels guilty when her husband gets angry.

Chapter 6: Facing Your Fears (p. 83-98)
8. For a Christian wife who is deeply committed to staying married,
what can she do to reduce her fear of divorce when her angry, alcoholic husband tells her, “If you don’t like it, leave.”
a. She should realize that he is as afraid or more afraid of losing her
    than she is of losing him.
b. She should tell him the truth about how his alcoholism affects their
    family and set boundaries on what she is willing to tolerate.
c. She should acquire job skills if she doesn’t already have them.
d. all of the above.

9. Which is a reliable source for determining God’s will?
a. an inner voice
b. Biblical teaching
c. a strong feeling
d. a sign

Chapter 7: Speak the Truth in Love (p. 99-110)
10. When a wife says to her alcoholic husband, “When you drink, I’m
going to sleep in the other room. The smell and snoring keep me awake,”
a. she is being honest and is responding in an appropriate manner.
b. she is being rude and offensive.
c. she is being too extreme and will decrease their marital affection by
    sleeping in the other room.
d. she is not giving him enough information; she needs to elaborate on
    her reasons for leaving their bedroom.

Chapter 8: Set Boundaries (p. 111-128)
11. A wife catches her husband looking at pornography on the
computer. Which of the following describes an appropriate boundary
she establishes?
a. She agrees to participate in uncomfortable sexual acts with her
    husband in order to please him more and hopefully reduce his need
    for pornography.
b. She disconnects the computer and allows him to use it only when she
    is in the room.
c. She believes him when he says he looked at it accidentally and will
    never do it again so she does nothing.
d. She is familiar with the teaching of Jesus Christ in Matthew 5:28,
    that a man who looks at a woman to lust for her has already
    committed adultery in his heart. However, she reasons that Jesus
    could not possibly have equated mental lust with actual adultery,
    since the consequences of a man sexually being with another woman
    seem much greater than a man just looking at an image of a naked
    woman. So she sternly warns her husband to not look at pornography
    on the computer again.

12. Which is NOT an appropriate expression of a boundary?
a. “When you calm down, I’ll talk to you.”
b. “Stop calling me names, please.”
c. “No.”
d. “You’re a jerk.”

Chapter 9: Make Your Children a Priority (p. 129-147)
13. A mother who listens effectively to her children will
a. reassure them that “Everything will be OK.”
b. tell her husband everything they told her.
c. express empathy for what they are feeling.
d. give them solutions for feeling better.

14. In many families, husbands and wives have different approaches
to disciplining children. The author humbly admits that, as a mother,
she yelled too much and her husband used passive-aggressive anger.
In retrospect, the author concludes that
a. they hurt their daughters and they should have gotten help to change.
b. God will work out all things for good.
c. there are no perfect parents and they did the best they could do.
d. children are very resilient; their daughters will overcome whatever
    harm was done.

Chapter 10: Enter God’s Rest (p. 149-160)
15. What can a wife do who is having difficulty letting go of past hurts
from her husband?
a. Her husband should ask forgiveness for all the specific ways he has
    failed her during their marriage.
b. She should decrease the boundaries she has established for his
    destructive behavior so he feels more trusted.
c. She should focus on what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable,
    excellent and praiseworthy of her husband (Philippians 4:8).
d. She should monitor her husband’s activities more closely to verify that
    he really is trustworthy.